This is why we cant have nice things

This is long, buckle up!  So I just watched “People we meet on vacation”.

Adorable movie!  I know it was based on a book and people who read it had mixed feelings.  But overall it was a cute movie with fun characters, funny moments, and a decent story. 

My annoyance comes from the trope of Best Friends to Lovers. I get it…I know that happens.  And people are always like “ruin the friendship”. “Best friends make the best husbands/wives”.  “Don’t live with regrets”.

I hate all of this.  Not because I don’t believe you shouldn’t be besties with your sig other but because this thought process damages the actual PLATONIC opposite sex friendships.  The stigma in everyone’s head is “well boys and girls cant be friends because they will hook up”

Girls wont trust a girl bestie with their husband and guys wont trust a guy bestie with their wives.  Jealousy happens, accusations happen, and friendships are ruined.  I’ve lost numerous male friends because their girlfriends or wives were convinced we were either hooking up or going to at some point.  Like no ma’am, we have been friends for 20+ years we aren’t like that.

But these movies show the end of committed relationships so the “friends” can be together.  I think the issue comes in that people don’t know the difference between romantic love feelings and platonic love feelings.  I love my friends but I don’t LOVE them that way.  Does that make sense??  

Yea yea sometimes it’s unrequited love or whatever but maturity also plays a part.  thinking you “love” someone but they love you like a friend you have a choice to make.  Keep perusing them and lose the friendship or remember WHY you are friends in the first place and preserve that.  

Maybe I am wired different but I can look at my guy friends and be like they are attractive and I love them without being like let’s hook up.  I love their companionship more than anything.  We are all happily married and want our spouses to be friends.  

Like get out of your hormones and be a f**king adult.  Or better yet encourage your kids to be friends with everyone.  If you son has a girl bestie don’t be like “oooooooo your girlfriend, ooooooo kissy kissy” and same if your daughter has a guy bestie.  We are the problem.  We put that stigma on them before they even understand sexual relationships.  

My point is I had a guy bestie…since Kindergarten!  We literally stayed friends through college.  Was I his date to a couple dances when he didn’t have a GF, yes. Was he mine when I didn’t have a BF, yes. But we were JUST FRIENDS.  No flirting, no hanky panky, none of that.  We had so much fun because were were literally just really good friends. 

In college my VERY jealous boyfriend thought for sure I was cheating on him with my friend.  Then he met him…and was like “wait I like this dude”.  EXACTLY!  He is a nice guy and not a threat to you my dear. 

But alas life happened.  We took a pic at graduation and soon his fiancé didn’t want us to be friends.  She gave him an ultimatum.  I wouldn’t expect him to choose me.  I was a little hurt but I am used to it by now.  

But what if we as a society didn’t put that stigma on KIDS.  What if we didn’t beat it into people that if you don’t have the same genitalia friendship is impossible??? What if we let them organically be friends and if things went to romance whatever but if they didn’t it is OKAY to just be f**king friends!!!!

I love my friends, male/female/non-binary/whatever!!  I don’t care what you have/don’t have in your pants or who you are attracted to.  If we click we click.  I can have a deep emotional bond with someone without it being sexual!!!!!!!!!!

I think this also goes back to the saying “emotional affairs”. That term gets thrown around a lot!  Because if you have a connection with anyone except your sig other and they happen to be of the opposite sex it seems to always be deemed an emotional affair.  Here’s the thing…stop doing that!

An emotional affair means you are seeking attention affection outside of a committed relationship because you are not getting what you need from it. Yea don’t do that!  Talk with your person.  Don’t use another to get what they aren’t giving in your relationship. Either work on the ship or end it.  

But Texting/hanging out with someone because you have common interests and are FRIENDS is not a f**king emotional affair.  If you went out with the girls would anyone say anything?!?! NO! So stop with the stigma.  Now if you are hiding something, bad on you. 

But I for one am tired of people being like “Oh you hung out with another guy?!?!?!  What would your husband think?!?!”  Listen judgy McJudgerson 1. He is fully aware of where I am and who I am with. 2. He knows this person also. 3. YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM!

Now I am not texting/calling these people at all hours of the night and nothing inappropriate.  I treat them like one of my girlfriends and they treat me like one of the guys.  I just wish as a society we could recognize that this is normal and not some scandalous thing that will result in the Friends becoming an item….

Rant over…I just want to not lose my friends because of this bull$hit!

Ya know Math just isn't for some people......

But those people maybe shouldn't work in the accounting or billing dept.....

Look I get it. I have besties who sometimes the numbers just don't click.  And its okay.  There is nothing wrong with that.  But when you work with money or better yet OTHER people's money, you should have a basic understanding of numbers. 

If you are AP or AR you should know that a number in parentheses is a negative.  A negative number...is a credit.  A credit should be SUBTRACTED from a total not added to it.  

You should also understand what "billing cycle" means.  And most times a billing cycle is billed AFTER the cycle ends.  So if say your billing cycle run from 11/11-12/10 and is due on the 1st of the following month.  That would mean they are due on 1/1....right?  Right.  This would also mean that the next billing cycle (12/11 - 1/10) would be due on 2/1, right? Right.  

So if you were me and got a bill for 11/11 - 12/10 AND 12/11 - 1/10 saying they are BOTH due on 1/1 you would have an issue, right?  How can you bill me for 12/11 - 1/10 when we are still in the middle of said billing cycle?!?!

Apparently that was confusing to the poor AR person I was speaking with.  He tried but he tried wrong.  He tried to make me feel stupid, tell me I needed to ADD the (12.66) to my total not SUBTRACT it, and mansplain how billing works.  That works never with me.  I was kind until he tried to make me feel dumb and spoke down to me.  

At that point I was not kind.  I didn't yell.  That isn't my style.  I started asking questions making him realize he was not in the right...to the point that he finally gave in and got his manager.  What was worse, that manager did the same thing, well he tried to.  Then when he realized I had a brain he told me to call in to customer loyalty tomorrow since it was clear my billing was incorrect and he didn't have the authority to pull the detail to actually help me.  

If you can't help someone that's okay BUT don't treat them like $hit, make them feel inferior, or speak down to them just to make yourself right.  That is crap customer service and you should not be in that position.  

What year is it?!?

 

I don't know what is in the water but holy crap I have never experienced so much chauvinism in ONE week. 

I am a professional.  I have been in various business roles for many many years.  I am intelligent.  I....am a threat...what?!?  Why is it.  WHY IS IT that if me, a female, shares an idea its $hit on but when a male shares the same or similar, its praised?!?!?  I literally said the same thing.  

Also, the fragility of these older men I work with is eye opening.  I am not being critical just trying to express my ideas.  Why can't I express my ideas without being put down?  Why do older men think they can just talk over me when they don't like what I have to say!?!?  To the point where I was like "can I finish answering your question before you start speaking again...please?"  It was so bad I had people messaging me after the call about how bad it was.  Its great and all that they noticed but why was everyone quiet?!?!  Almost no one came to my defense.  You know why?  Because half of them were also female and they are scared to LOSE THEIR JOB for speaking up.  Do you know how f**ked up that is?!?!  The other men on the call...I will give it to a couple.  They did try to back me up a little but when he went after them they shut up quick.  What sucks is my idea isn't bad.  It would be a win win for everyone if we can get it implemented.  The problem is it gets rid of a bunch of manual processes HE created.  Instead of being open minded he pitched a fit to make sure HIS WAY stayed in place, even if its antiquated.  

Also, come to find out a woman who quit two weeks ago found out she was paid $20,000 LESS than her male counterpart.  Same years of experience, same education, same track record for the most part.  But he was paid more and treated her like his own personal secretary even though they had the same job.  Then he had the nerve...THE NERVE to ask her for a reference because he thinks his time is limited.  Why you ask...well because after she left they realized she was doing everything and he is basically a sentient paperweight.  

Again,....

Then I was at an event with some friends and acquaintances.  Not too many people and not inside (COVID!!!).  Anyways, one of the ladies I don't know as well was leaving, kinda early.  When someone asked her why she was bugging out so soon she said she had to get home.  Okay I know for a fact all of her kids have already left for college so no kiddies but okay.  She said she needed to get home to cook dinner.  Okay......  I mean whatever we all have stuff we do but you never go out with everyone....

She reluctantly said well, her husband requires her to be home every night no later than 6:30 so she can cook him dinner.  If she goes out or works later, she still needs to be home to cook because "he gives her off on the weekends".  WHAT!!??!!?  She is a working woman.  Why does she have to leave an event to cook him dinner?!?!  He works from home.  I...WHAT IS HAPPENING?!!?  One of the guys jokingly said what happens if you don't cook M-F?  She said, it's not worth the fight, plus she does have off those two days.  

He is a grown @$$ man.  He can't cook dinner ONE week night so his wife can have a night out....?

Don't be a tw@t

Public Service Announcement:

If you notice someone has gained weight...SHUT UP.  I guarantee you that person is fully aware that they are heavier.  They are probably VERY upset about it.  They do not need to hear about it from judgy @$$holes like you.

We all see it with celebrities and it pisses me off.  They are still HUMAN.  Just because they gained some weight and aren't a negative 4 doesn't mean we should blast it all over the internet and make them feel worse.

Same goes with your family/friends/co-workers.  Trust me they know what they look like.  And you can't POSSIBLY know what is happening in their life so shut it!

I say this because I have recently become the "target" of such comments.  Not to my face...no that would be rude...BUT to my cousins and brothers and sister in laws...and aunts...and uncles...should I f**king continue?  It came to a head when I said something to a cousin and she told me "yea...I've heard a lot about your @$$ and thighs recently...it pissed me off!"  Yea well it pisses me off too!

I am not a size zero (nothing wrong with that by the way) but I am not f**king fat either!  I am horribly out of shape compared to this time last year.  My muscle has turned to...not muscle.  Booooooooo!  But its not because I've become a lazy f**k or something.  Its because I am dealing with stupid $hit that I can't talk to anyone about except my husband (NDA b**ches) and I am f**king stressed out!

I am still running races but I went from working out 6 days a week to maybe one...maybe.  I don't eat awful BUT I've been eating out much more.  I don't eat sweets much so that's good but my guilty pleasure is a coke.

Why?  Well because I am driving an hour each way to work...EVERY DAY.  I am working 10 hour days.  By the time I get home its f**king dark...or getting dark and I am trying to attempt dinner.  Otherwise we order in.  I don't stop at all 'til bed time.  I go to bed...rinse repeat.  Could I make time?  Of course...I'd sacrifice sleep and at the moment...I don't think I can.  I am barely getting 6 hours a night now.   I am taking supplements to help with lady things that happen to make you retain a bit more fluid.  I have diagnosed IBS and while its under control for the most part when I get stressed my tummy pokes out because just look up IBS and you'll get it.

So yea I am a bit jiggly in places I didn't used to be.  I think I look like $hit, thanks.  But I don't need comments from the peanut gallery and I still fit in my clothes (and no they aren't too snug) so suck it!  I mean somethings I forgo...like a really tight shirt....or anything that grips the tummy area.  And GOD am I dreading putting on a swimsuit but whatever. 

My point is quit talking $hit.  You don't know what other people are going through, unless you ask...and NO ONE HAS ASKED!  You aren't making comments because you are concerned...if you were you'd say them to me in the form of "hey, I noticed you aren't running as much...you okay?" or "I noticed you aren't working from home as much...wanna talk about it?" See that isn't RUDE!  You are making comments behind someone's back to gossip so, f**k you very much. 

Idiocracy was a f**king prophecy

Right so I know I joke that Idiocracy is coming true but lately...LATELY...I fear I may not be joking.

People DO NOT THINK.

Who does this?!?!!?

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Who said "yes lets have LIVING exotic animals as props at prom"?!? The kids didn't do this.  This had to have been approved by an "Adult".  I put that in quotes because the definition of what constitutes being an adult is started to get a little hazy.

"At a Miami prom themed “Welcome to the Jungle,” several exotic animals, including a lemur, two macaws, an African fennec fox and a tiger were on display."

Has anyone been to a F**KING prom?!?!!?  They are loud and packed and have weird lighting and smells.  Just thinking about the stress put on those poor animals is heartbreaking!  

From the School: "The tiger, which was displayed for a few minutes in a cage was never harmed or in danger, was not forced to perform, was always accompanied by his handlers… and for the great majority of the time was laying down in a relaxed state facing away from the audience,” the statement read.

But watch the Video...that cat was pacing with ears back.  Anyone with a f**king brain can see that animal is uncomfortable.  That is why our old Mike the Tiger didn't go into the stadium for games.  He got too stressed out so he stayed in his habitat (which happens to be nicer than my house).  

"But in video posted online, the tiger can be seen pacing in the cage as performers use fire to entertain the graduating class." 

Performers.used.Fire.  read it again...they used FIRE!  Any living creature out of its comfort zone would freak the f**k out seeing fire and being in a f**king cage!  A human would.  Imagine being put in a tiny cage and rolled out into a large "arena" where there is FIRE and loud noises all around you.

What if he would have gotten out?!?!?  Yea yea yea he was "always with his handlers".  Ask Siegfried & Roy how well a pissed off Tiger listens to its handlers.  Like Roy said not the Tiger's fault!  He almost died and didn't blame the Tiger BUT a Tiger no matter how well cared for, no matter how much interaction with humans it has, is still a wild animal.  

That prom could have become famous for very different reasons.  I hate people!  Common sense says this is a bad idea, yet it was approved by a school system.  God help us we have no common sense left and that is what is educating our future generations. 

11AM ≠ 7:30AM..."There was a detour"...through where, China?!?!

If you are more than 10 min late for an appointment you should call.

If you call about being late and say I'll be there by shortly you should probably not show up an hour and a half - two hours later.

If you KNOW someone is staying home from work for you to do a job BE COURTEOUS, BE ON TIME!

If you tell me you are getting to my house at 7:30 and don't show up until 11:00, we have a problem

If you then leave at 2:00 for "lunch" and don't come back until 4:00, We have a Problem

If you then leave at 5:00 because "reasons" and will come back tomorrow...We.Have.A.Problem

If you tell me a job will only take 5 days and we are going on 3 weeks...WE HAVE A F**KING PROBLEM

You know what you being late tells me.

     - It tells me that you don't respect me.
     - It tells me that my time is not important to you
     - It tells me that you CLEARLY don't want a referral
     - It tells me you are UNPROFESSIONAL and a TW@T

Look I know "contractors" are their own bosses usually.  And I know its "common" for them to kinda make their own schedules but being over 2 hours late is f**king unacceptable.

I have the ability to work from wherever MOST OF THE TIME.  So when this "project" started and was supposed to take 5 days, we were fine...even if he showed up stupid late every day.

But he farted around and only worked a few hours a day.  Well guess what?  $hit is going DOWN at my place of employment and I HAVE to be in meetings...meetings that are lasting into the wee evening hours.  Meetings that are consuming my life.

Now this numpty is ready to finish so he can get paid and guess what, I can't f**king be there!

I was told on Sunday, it had to be Tuesday bc the whatever had to finish curing. I was able to schedule my mom for Tuesday (like 2 days ago Tuesday).   Monday at 8 f**king 45 PM, I am told Tuesday is a no go, he's coming Thursday.

My mom can't on Thursday.  Thank GOD my husband could but only until 3-ish.  He said 7:30AM...great awesome 6 hours is MORE THAN ENOUGH TIME TO FINISH. Well this lazy sphincter nugget shows up at 11:15 there is NO WAY he will be finished before my love goes to work.  So I have to reschedule my entire f**king day to make sure I can be home before he leaves (boss not happy but understands).

Have I mentioned I have $HIT GOING DOWN?!?!?!  I want to f**king throat punch someone but I will refrain because I need him to finish the f**king job!

***UPDATE*** I got home to relieve the hubs.  He was here a whopping 45 minutes with me and f**king left for the day!!!  He said whatever he did had to "set".  He was here for 2 hours, went to "lunch", came back at 2:30, and left at 3:45 that is 3 hours and 15 min...MAYBE.  If he showed up at 7:30, I wouldn't have had to F**KING leave work.

Prejudice goes both ways....

I know the old adage is don't judge a book by its cover.  And most times (in real life and movies) its the popular people judging the nerdy/different people.  But that isn't always the case.

In High School I skirted the line.  I wasn't popular but I wasn't unpopular.  I was a super nerd into science and sci-fi but I was also on the dance team.  Basically I got along with most people.  There were occasions where I was picked on but it was few and far between at that point.  (In grammar school...PICKED ON WAY MORE.)  And I tried my hardest to not be associated with people who targeted and hurt others. 

With that said I had no idea some people thought poorly of me.  I found out recently that a band girl thought poorly of me just because I was on the dance team.   I am well into my 30's and had no idea.  Our paths crossed again and she was rude/mean to me and I couldn't figure out why.  Like I would say something and she would have a snarky or rude comment.  Would put me down in front of "her" friends.  Would basically try to make me feel bad about even speaking.  I was hurt and appalled that an adult who was picked on in HS would be such a bully and she has THREE kids...talk about setting an example.  Especially someone I thought was kind and I was always kind to. 

Finally I found out she thought because I was a dance team girl IN HIGH SCHOOL that I was not capable of being kind to anyone who wasn't popular IN HIGH SCHOOL so she was mean to me.  WHAT THE ACTUAL F**K?!?!? She thought in HS when I was being nice, that it wasn't genuine.  That I was trying to get "points" for being nice to the band geeks.  That I was FRIENDS with "nerds" to up my status.  The list was f**king insane. 

My BEST FRIEND was a "band nerd".  I hung out with boys from the band not just the dance team, cheerleaders, and football players.  I was friends with everyone.  I was so hurt that someone even thought that stuff about me.  Then I found out that the reason "her" friends were standoffish with me is because she convinced them people like me weren't actually nice, it was all a front. 

Are you serious right now?!?!  This is a type bullying also, just saying! And I wasn't the one putting on a "front".  I have removed myself from that situation.  I might have been semi-popular in HS but that doesn't mean I deserve to be treated horribly by a "victim".  I never judged her...EVER...but she judged me just because of a stupid stereotype.

In conclusion, people suck!     

So you are telling me Eternal Damnation is in my future....k

People that hide behind religion and use it as an excuse to be an @$$hole are not actually good people. 

You can be Catholic and not spit on a woman walking into Planned Parenthood.

You can have your beliefs and not call someone a whore because they got pregnant without being married.

You can think whatever you want but it doesn't give you the right to make someone else feel like they are below you because they messed up or believe differently. 

No matter what you believe...what religion you follow or don't follow...what God you pray or don't pray to, its not an excuse to harm another person whether that is physically or emotionally. 

Jesus said "let he who is without sin cast the first stone".  Basically meaning you don't know someone's situation, don't judge.  Instead maybe try to help them without being a jerkface!  Not "OMG you sinner, let me burn your house down". 

You are not the judge of others.  He said "Treat others as you want to be treated".  If you want people to be butts to you, okay fine but this usually isn't the case.

LOVE ONE ANOTHER!  Not, only love people who see things from your point of view and believe what you believe.

I was "informed" because I love and support my family member and friends who happen to be gay, I will go to hell. That I should "love them from a distance" because their souls are dammed.  WTF...really?

I was "informed" that because I took on the roll of "Aunt" to a child not related to me who happened to be born with no father known...I am perpetrating Satan's plan. Ummmm...what?

I was "informed" (again) that because my parents are divorced and had the marriage annulled years later the church considers me to be illegitimate.  Are you serious right now...?

I might not be a practicing Catholic at the moment but from where I stand I do more things in Jesus' image than most of the practicing Catholic's I know. 

WWJD...Yea I don't think he would abandon those who have been ousted by society.  Let a mother and child be forgotten because she made a "mistake".  Not love me because my parents made a VERY DIFFICULT decision and realized their marriage was toxic to each other and not a good environment for ME.  Was it all butterflies and rainbows...no, it sucked BUT it worked out in the end. 

"Things are either right or wrong, there is no gray area".  Yes...true...I guess.  But Forgiveness and Acceptance was my takeaway...not persecution and hatred.

Just my thoughts...rant over...people suck...love your neighbor...be excellent to each other and party on dudes! 

"Listen, little girl"

It is never okay to say this, it is condescending and disrespectful.

I don't care who you are, what your position is, what your gender is, or where you work; if you call me "little girl" I am going to be angry.  I am of a smaller stature and look young but you do NOT know me, if I made you feel stupid that is NOT my problem.  I am beyond professional, if you feel dumb its because you have issues not me.

Story time 1:

Helping a client.  They are new and request something that is taboo but make it look like our stuff doesn't work right.  It is something that is NEVER recommended.  I respond back using it as a teaching opportunity.  I was not condescending, I was not trying to make them look bad.  They copied FIFTEEN people trying to make ME look bad, I  responded to everyone (because I know half of them) and I have nothing to hide.  I said my piece and gave my solution.

I got a response back just to me, "Listen, little girl.  You will not embarrass me in front of my bosses and employees.  You will treat me with respect.  You will not use me as an example."

Someone has a superiority complex...

I responded and cc'd the people he excluded.  "Hello ____, I am sorry you feel this way.  I was not targeting you.  I was not trying to embarrass you.  I was just informing you of how things are set up since you are newer to the position.  I treat all of my contacts with utmost respect, I only ask that they do the same for me.  Please do not call me 'Little Girl'.  I am a business professional with 17 years of experience in this field and am here to help you.  I meant no disrespect, my apologies." 

I will not let people get away with this $hit anymore.  You want to act like I am beneath you, then be an adult and copy everyone.  If you aren't man enough to have your bosses and FEMALE employees know how insecure you are, don't send it in writing.

Story time 2:

Buying a vehicle.  This one happened a little while ago.  Went with the sig other to get some info on a larger vehicle for him.  While looking at our trade in, the finance guy and sales guy insulted us ten times over because we refused to just accept their price.  Saying we will NEVER be able to afford said vehicle etc etc etc.  They also offered us way too little for the trade in, it was BS and they knew it.  We look young and they were clearly trying to take advantage/bully us into a sale.  The kicker, they wouldn't talk to me.  I would talk and they would only look and speak to my husband like I wasn't even there. The hubs would say something and look to me to agree/disagree/add input and they would ignore me,  f**k you very much! They wouldn't work with us but also wouldn't give us back our keys.  I finally stood up and said "Give me my car keys, now!"  The finance guy looked right at me and said "Sit down little girl, we are speaking to your husband".

My husband stood up and defended me.

I finally said "really.  that's nice.  the vehicle we are trading in, is in both our names.  the new vehicle will be in both our names.  We are married, if you want to make a deal, you want to talk to BOTH of us.  But I am done talking.  Give me my f**king keys or I am calling the police!".  I don't normally swear like that...I do it in jest but not in anger when I am trying to be the bigger person. 

We got our keys but no apologies.  We literally walked out with the sales guy laughing and talking loudly to other sales people saying something about people being embarrassed because they WEREN'T approved...

I retold my experience on BBB, Facebook, Twitter, and via a survey from their corporate office asking about our experience & when we might come back to complete the sale.  Again, not letting these tw@t waffles get away with this $hit anymore.  I saw I wasn't the 1st or even 20th person to complain.  Its not surprising the dealership bankrupted about 6 months later.  That is NOT how you do business.

My vagina says you're an @$$hole

Just because you have a penis doesn't mean you can do or say whatever you want.  It goes the other way too.  Just  because you lack a penis doesn't mean you can do or say what you want.  Basically, genitalia shouldn't determine how you treat people.

With that said, I don't care how angry you are...you never never NEVER speak like this to a vendor/client/other human being. 

A client messed up.  Not a big mess up but an annoyance, EASILY fixable.  Except he didn't want to accept he was responsible for creating said annoyance.  So he proceeded to lose his f**king mind on the phone.  At first he just yelled a lot and spoke over me. 

With every shred of patience I could muster I waited until he was done and tried speaking again.  After carefully telling him there was an issue but I could fix it, he started screaming at me that I TOLD him to do it that way.  Ummm no I didn't.  Yes, you did.  Right, lets agree to disagree and get this fixed. 

But it didn't stop there.  As I was actively trying to find a feasible solution he was flipping out about how stupid we are, how stupid our system is, how inconvenient it is that he has to do all the work to fix HIS mistake.  I ignored the slimy dick socket while I chatted online with my CSR. 

Then I hear him pull the phone away from his ear and growl like a f**king psychopath.  He came back and asked if I was going to attempt to fix it or if I fell asleep. 

I calmly responded with "I am chatting with a CSR right now to come up with the best solution." He pulled the phone away AGAIN and growled like a rabid dog, came back and yelled "well I didn't f**king know that now did I?!?!?"

To which I replied, I got tired of you "speaking" over my explanations and decided to just fix it.  The insecure crotch goblin did his best impression of Beast roaring into the phone and screamed "you can't speak to me like that you ignorant c**t!!!!!!!!!!!" 

I immediately hung up the phone and told my boss.  Me and my CSR implemented the solution but I still needed to tell him it was fixed.  Before I could think about just sending an email my phone rang. 

I answered sweet as pie to a fuming psychopath who demanded to speak to my boss.  Sure, whatever.  My boss came on the line and introduced HERself.  The infected whale vagina says eerily calm, "I said I wanted to speak to the boss not another b**ch playing boss". 

The call was immediately terminated. 

My boss called his boss...hilarity ensued.  Mainly because that white trash taint monster tried to deny EVERYTHING.  Um sir, remember when you called in and the automated assistant said "this call may be recorded for quality assurance".  Yea, you were recorded. 

I may have gotten someone fired and honestly I don't f**king care.  Yes, I know I am being insulting here but I didn't say it to him or his boss...therefore I win the decent human award for the day.

Lesson of the Day:  Don't speak poorly to people and if you do for whatever reason make sure you aren't being recorded...dip$hit!  What is wrong in your life that you feel like that was an acceptable response to "I f**ked up and need your help".

Seriously...ANOTHER "Snow" Day

What is happening?!?!  Yesterday it "warmed" up to like the 50's.  This morning it was 42 when I woke up.  By this afternoon it will drop 10+  degrees...WHAT?!?!  Overnight 22 degrees...with a 30% chance of snow.  I mean nothing "sticking" but JFC that's frigid!

Have I mentioned I live in the DEEP SOUTH?  Maybe once or twice...maybe I should say it LOUDER!  We get snow (flurries) every 10-15 years not THREE TIMES in two months.  WTF?!?

So yea tomorrow we are shutting down again because we can't function in the cold...obviously.

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Then I saw this from yesterday, I think....(that pink area is in central LA right now)

Ummmmm.  That...is it just me....?

Its funny because we will have a layer of white stuff...right...right... Mother Nature about to...never mind....if I don't laugh I'll cry.

I'm going burrow under some blankets and snuggle with my dogs.

**UPDATE** there is now a 90% chance of snow...not snow showers...SNOW from 9PM-2AM...WTF?!?!?!

Why does it matter what BRAND of tech SOMEONE ELSE has?!?!

I have been called "stupid" because I have an iPhone.  I'm sorry...what?!?  Like, I don't say a damn thing, I just get attacked because I happen to own an iPhone.  Apparently I am not a "real" tech person if I don't own a Samsung.  F**k you, I had a Samsung when they first started making phones.  I liked it, it worked great but I PREFERRED the iPhone when I got my Smartphone ten years ago. Will I ever get a Galaxy or a Note...maybe, maybe not but I don't see how that is a concern of ANYONE else.

But you see, I am "clearly unintelligent" if I keep buying Apple because Samsung is so advanced and cheaper.  I don't know what planet you live on but they are fairly close in Price depending on storage and model...give or take.  I have had ZERO issues functioning with my iPhone.  My phone is almost 4 years old and aside from a cracked screen (stupid dog) it works fine.  Yes, Samsung has different features but nothing that screams to me.  At this point mine does everything I need it to do.  I can't help it if you can't function with an iPhone and needed a Samsung.  Good for you, I don't care what f**king kind of phone you have.

I just don't get it.  Its like the PC vs Mac $hit from a few years ago.  Its a preference thing.  I don't do gaming but I do designing and photography.  So I got a USED Mac and it lasted me 7+ years, I still have it and it still works.  Its zippy enough and loads with no issues. The ONLY reason I got a new one is because the battery was failing and it didn't have enough memory to handle the newer Operating Systems and the applications were getting dated.  This happens with PCs too so don't even try to BS me on that.  My husband went through THREE Windows based laptops in that time so again bite me.  Yes they are expensive but I'd rather spend $999 today and not worry about it again for 7+ years...while he spent $500 per computer over 8 years...that is $1500 and they didn't even come with Office (I have the Mac version, it works FINE!).

Its not like I run around saying *in a condescending voice* "I use Apple products". I actually don't say anything.  Usually its other people asking me what kind of computer I have.  All I say "I have a MacBook" and people legit attack me for "sucking Apple's d**k".  I'm sorry, does my PERSONAL laptop offend you....?

My point is WHO THE F**K cares.  If what you are using works for you, why does it matter?!?!  Yes the newer ones like the Surface are WAY better than their predecessors and have really cool features and functions but those cost a pretty penny also so again its a f**king preference thing.  WHO CARES?!?!?!  "But does yours turn into a Tablet?".  No, but at the time I didn't want or need that feature.  I have an iPad, have since 2011...again STILL WORKS FINE.  "But it doesn't turn into a tablet".  Okaaaaay...WHY DO YOU CARE...?

After this MacBook (which I've had for 2 years and have ZERO ISSUES) goes the way of the dinosaurs I'll weigh my options and make a decision.  By that time who the f**k knows what kind of tech will be out there.

My point is why does it bother other people so much when someone has Apple or Samsung or LG or what-the-f**k-ever brand of tech.  Are you using it?  If the answer is no, then shut up.  It is not necessary to be an @$$hole  about it.  I didn't laugh in your face when your Samsung LITERALLY caught fire.  I'm 99% sure I didn't say anything except, "Well, that sucks...".

People's problem is they are overly involved in everyone else's business.  I clearly take VERY good care of my tech which in turn makes it last longer but its still MY tech and MY preference.  It has zero effect on you except you feel the need to tell me how stupid I am for some reason.

Yea well if I "suck Apple's d**k, then you eat Samsung's @$$hole".  And I DON'T CARE!  Bon appetite, would you like a Chardonnay with that?  Just shut up and be happy you can afford such luxuries.

**Rant over**

I think you are missing the point there sugar

This is a RANT feel free to ignore...

I am not a breedist...is that a thing...?  I don't look at an animal and say "OMG its a _____ breed...everyone RUN!!!"   but I am also not an idiot.

I've grown up with large and small dogs of all breeds.  When I was a kid we had a doberman/boxer mix, a German Shepard/husky Mix, and a Pekingese/poodle mix.  If you asked anyone they were scared of my dobe/boxer mix.  After all AGGRESSIVE BREEDS!!!  In reality...I was bit countless times by the little Pekingese mix.  She was an @$$hole.  Seriously, that little b**ch held me hostage on more than one occasion because she wanted to.  She would jump in MY BED and then growl and nip if I moved.  She was MEAN.  I loved her to bits but she was a jerk.  The big dogs...BABIES.  The most lovable creatures you'd ever meet.  But mess with me or my mom and you'd lose your manhood...or at the very least a toe. 

My point is ALL dogs have the potential to be aggressive...ALL OF THEM.  And the little ones are the worst.  I've had them and loved them but they could be JERKS.   I was chased down the street by a toy poodle.  I was just a running along when this little puffball ATTACKED me.  He's lucky I love dogs otherwise I might have punted him across the street.  I was BLEEDING FROM MY ANKLES but he was a poodle...what's the big deal, right?  WRONG!  He viciously attacked me...but he was tiny.  If a little dog  bites you, you might need a bandaid...if a big dogs bites you, you need stitches or are dead.  THAT is the difference. 

With that said I don't care what size your dog is...it should be properly restrained when in public.  If there is even a remote possibility that you MIGHT encounter another animal muzzle that little $hit.   big or small, you muzzle them all.  You know why?  You f**king know why?  Because if your little $hit of a dog runs up to me and my gentle giant and starts $hit, my gentle giant MIGHT decide to defend me which might equal death for your little $hit. 

Doesn't matter if its a park, vet, or groomer...they should ALL be properly restrained for the safety of ALL pets.  Irresponsible owners and/or vet/groomer employees are a problem.  You don't walk a PITBULL past a BISHON.  Just don't.  You don't know how ANY dog is going to react..EVER!  The kindest dog could decide tomorrow that the little @$$hole barking needs to be silenced. 

I am not talking about the dogs with issues or dogs bred to be aggressive.  I had pits too.  Never had an issue...NEVER.  I had someone try to say there was an issue but THEY WERE IN MY YARD and THEY HIT MY DOG REPEATEDLY.  Show me ANY animal that wouldn't attack after being punched in the face.  Come on...I'll wait.   My dog could have destroyed that idiot...instead he barked...nipped (didn't bite, no blood was drawn)...and hid behind my then boyfriend.  But because of his "breed" he was almost put down.  Not because he did a damn thing wrong but because I lived next door to a moron.  Nothing came of it but it was EYE OPENING. 

Here's the point.  Animals are just that, animals.  If you treat them like $hit, they will respond in kind.  Even the kindest animal has the potential to be mean....people aren't exempt.  How many times did you hear about a mass murderer that was "just a normal guy...".  So to protect the fur babies BE RESPONSIBLE.  Always have them leashed.  Put a "gentle lead" or a muzzle if you even had a tiny inkling your pup might try to defend you.  Cross the street/path/area if you remotely think there might be an issue.  Why risk it?!?!  Be a responsible pet owner because others aren't. 

Moral of the story...DON'T BE A TW@T!  Protect your pets!

Don't judge a dog by its breed, judge it by its owner because lets be honest...unless there is an underlying issue the way a dog reacts is directly correlated with how its treated by their owner.  "But pets attack kids all the time".  DIG DEEPER.  Maybe not always...but many times something happened.  There are ways to introduce pets to kids...make them jealous and you have an issue...they are still an ANIMAL!  Don't leave pets and kids unattended...why? Because some kids are @$$holes...and some animals don't understand what a kid is.  BE A RESPONSIBLE PARENT! 

Be overly cautious, not because your pet will hurt someone but because you just don't know.  You NEVER know....EVER.

Rant over...I'm going to bed.

I might be the oldest but I am by no means the most mature

And that makes me fun, ha!  Apparently a 30+ year old (without kids) obsessed with Halloween is frowned upon.  How many years do I have to post something like this?!?!?!?

- People have come to my house "oh are you having a party?" Ummm no...I just really like Halloween .

- New neighbors "oh do you have kids?" Nope... "So what's with all the decor...?" *ahem* I just really like Halloween .

- *wearing Jack Skellington choker* "are you going to a dress-up party?" Huh...?  No...I just really like Halloween .

- "You know Halloween is only one day out of the month", so is Christmas but we celebrate it starting back in July apparently.
     - "Yes but Christmas is celebrating the birth of our lord, it deserves more than one day"
       *thinking* 'Well maybe I am celebrating my lord', *said*  Well, I'll have Christmas 
        decor out starting Black Friday...good enough?

- "You all carve pumpkins?  But you don't have kids!" *WTAF* *sigh* Ya know the dogs just wouldn't stop begging for their own Jack-o-Lantern.

Halloween isn't just for kids.  Christmas isn't just for kids.  ADULTS CAN ENJOY HOLIDAYS WITHOUT KIDS.  F**k off all you judgmental idiots. 

You are amoebas on fleas on a rat...whose eating its own tail because it would rather watch Aladdin than buy a f**king pizza!

I'm ranting again, feel free to skip this....

If people, countries, companies, etc could learn NOT be greedy that would be greeeeaaat.  But instead everyone wants billions of dollars...because a mere million is child's play.   I'm not really sure what I believe as far as how things should be run globally.  I'm kinda right down the middle on most things.  With that said the COST of everything has become a serious problem.  Each year it becomes more and more expensive to live BUT we only get a meager CoL increase.  And some people don't even get that.  So we have to cut back in other places...not go on vacations...whatever.

Once place we cut was cable.  I couldn't justify it anymore.  I WILL NOT pay over $200 to watch f**king TV in the evenings.  Do you know what I can do with $200?!?!   And I'm not signing another "its not a contract, just an agreement"...yea potato, potahto.  So we opted for internet only and stream stuff.  So I pay currently $50 for internet, $9.99 for Netflix, $40 for PlayStation Vue (only to watch live sports really...do you know how f**ked up that is?!?!).  So $100 a month.  Well right now only $59.99 because I canceled PSVue until I need it.  Still way more than it should be but I can watch everything I want and save $100+ a month.

Then I got a notice from my cable company...if I stream more than 1TB a month I get charged.

While that is a lot, when you are streaming EVERYTHING and working from home that cuts it a little close.  So during the day if I don't have a show I want to catch up on, I have my $17 HD Antenna watching reruns of SVU and Criminal Minds or whatever I can find on regular TV.  

I can deal.  I had to pay to get the Season Finale of Doctor Who (I wanted to nut punch BBC when they removed their shows from Netflix!).  One of the 1st to say "I have enough content, buy it from me, not Netflix".  So I can get SOME of their shows on BBC America website but they are only out there for a month or so and I missed the cut off.  It's not on Hulu.  Amazon Prime has it but only older seasons and no Classic Who.  Seriously angry about this!  CBS is another one.  I watch 4 shows on CBS...about to be none because I don't want to pay $5.99/mo JUST for CBS!!!!

While this crap angers me, I got over it because I still have a lot to watch.  Then I see this....

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F**K YOU DISNEY!  Now you want to have your own streaming service!?!?!  I don't have kids but I enjoy Disney.  I watch Disney movies...and Star Wars....and Marvel...and don't forget these greedy bastards also own ABC.  So does that mean ABC will be gone from PSVue like CBS???  What about the Netflix Original Shows of Marvel Characters...Jessica Jones, Daredevil, Luke Cage...what does this mean for them down the line?!?! By the time its all said and done one of two things is going to happen:

1.) Cable will be cheaper than 15 different PAID streaming services these greedy cunt lickers are creating so cord cutters will go back to cable (something I really don't want to f**king do).

2.) The networks will all implode and Netflix/Hulu/Amazon original programming and movies will be the new norm.  Our favorite shows will be gone or picked up by one of these three. WHICH if I did all three it would be $30 a month + internet.  Cheaper than what I have now!  Of course I'm sure they'd raise the prices because...GREEDY!

C.) Cable will be hurting so bad internet prices will skyrocket and the whole thing will just collapse.

     2b) Pirating will be more the norm and it will all still come crumbling down.

Look people can't afford this $hit!  We cut the cord because y'all were raping us on cable prices.  We stopped going to the movie theater because who the F**K can afford $30 JUST for tickets for 2 people!?!?!?!  Now GREED has caused you cum guzzling whale vaginas to try to get my hard earned money in other sinister ways.  No matter what we do, we can't save money.  If I have to start choosing between groceries or T.V., I'll go get me some groceries and find something else to occupy my time.

Why can't everyone be like The CW.  Most shows are there the next day and out there for a few weeks.  You don't need to login with a cable provider or buy anything, it's just there!  And their shows are on Netflix.  Thank you CW, please don't change.

I hate this.  I really really really hate this.  You can't tell me Disney NEEDS money.  $hit just to go to Disney World is $4k easily with kids.  Just me and my hubs (two adults being thrifty) it was right under $2k for 6 nights.  Things don't have to be this expensive but supply and demand blah blah blah.  If demand goes up prices should go DOWN not up.  But noooooo that isn't how it works *rolling eyes*.  I"m not an economist, don't crucify me.

I'm going home to NOT watch T.V., cook dinner, and have a glass of wine.  Maybe I'll read a book. F**k you very much Disney, you just pushed a fairly loyal consumer over the edge.

Also, I'm going find me a Voodoo Priestess to do the VooDoo on you.  I hope this f**king crashes and burns and Disney loses their @$$es.  I don't usually wish ill on anyone but I am angry today.

SIDE NOTE - notice how I didn't lump the HBO/Showtime/Cinemax in here?  You know why?  because those have ALWAYS been premium channels.  We've ALWAYS had to pay extra for them.  I am okay with that.

"Vaginas in space?!? No Thanks!"

Seriously?!?!  Just one of the NUMEROUS idiotic comments I saw on Sunday.  Come on people, really?!?!

If you are unaware or not a fan, they announced who the next Doctor will be.  And He is regenerating into a She.  People are losing their minds.

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Is it different, yes.  Is it bad...I don't think so.  I know, I know he's been a he FOREVER!  And I love him as a He.  But other Timelords changed gender why not him.  Hell, his best frenemy became a girl (Missy) so clearly its not out of the realm of possibilities.  PLUS they've been hinting at this for a while, easing us into it. We see The Master as Missy, we see a general (I  think, I can't remember) change from male to female. They've been telling us its happening.

I was shocked at first too but I love the show and I love the character so lets give her a chance.  I personally think it could be great.  Shake things up a bit.  Change isn't always bad.  I'm not saying you can't be upset, everyone can feel how they want to.  I am just saying if you are a fan, give her a chance.  If she sucks, congrats you were right.  If she's awesome, you get to see the 1st female Doctor running through time and space being amazing.

And for those complaining that "all I'll be able to see is the mom from Broadchurch", you mean to tell me you didn't think the same thing about Capaldi (Malcolm Tucker) or when Tennant became Kilgrave (all I see is Ten being a tw@t).  Yes, its hard to picture them in different roles once you associate a specific one with them but remember they are actors, some pretty amazing actors.  Give them a chance to show you how talented they are.

What's done is done, let's hope for the best.

Age does not equal maturity...it seems lately some of the most immature people are our elders

While I know we all have our faults; we all learn new things everyday.  The day I think I know it all slap me, because you NEVER know everything.

With that said the way people react to situations really speaks volumes to me.  When we win a "battle" our natural instinct is to celebrate.  But knowing when that celebration is appropriate shows maturity.

We wont always get our way.  Things happen, sometimes we lose.  But just because we "win" doesn't mean we can take joy in someone's loss.  At least not in front of them.  Gloating is one of the biggest signs of immaturity.  We all do it, have done it, but there are some situations where you should NEVER DO IT.  Usually these are serious situations, like oh I dunno...death. 

Death can brings families together or tear them apart.  I seem to be bearing witness to a "tear them apart" situation.  And its all because the "adults" can't play nice.  They seem to all want to screw each other out of their meager inheritances.  They are bragging about what they 'got' or have power of.  There is a will that states how things should be but people are bucking the system.  They are fighting.  They are manipulating. They aren't playing fair.  And I don't understand.  Someone you love DIED!  Do you think they would want you fighting over what THEY already took care of. 

I'm the eldest so I should get _______________
I'm the only girl so I should get ______________
I'm the baby so I should get ________________

I am, I am, I am...its all f**king bull$hit!

THIS DOESN'T MATTER!  None of this matters.   The tomb wasn't even closed before you started f**king fighting! 

If I was your parent I would have donated everything to charity and said f**k all y'all ungrateful heathens.  They KNEW this would happen, that is why there is a will.  A LEGAL WILL!  In the end, nothing else matters.  You are family.  You are SIBLINGS.  Materialistic $hit doesn't matter.  You are all over 60 and have no idea how to be a mature adult.  How did this happen?  You say the baby boomers are the *insert amazing feat* generation.  But you aren't.

You know what you are?  You are the reason our world is dying.  You are the reason our economy is failing.  You are the reason we are all drowning in debt.  You are the reason I can barely survive with a f**king Masters Degree.  You created the millennials and now are complaining about us (yea, apparently I am a "millennial").  You are the greediest, most selfish generation I've come across.  You don't see reason, you only see ways to take from everyone else without giving crap.  And I am done.

SIDE NOTE - obviously its not all "baby boomers".   I know many are reasonable.  They tend to be more educated and HUMBLE.  Look, there are bad seeds in every group but the ones I've been "privileged" enough to be around lately are 100% awful. 

Educate yourself BEFORE you speak

Also - stating opinion as fact is WRONG 100% of the time.  Also believing your are right in any situation does not give you the right to be an @$$hole...being an @$$hole actually diminishes the validity your argument.

Look I am all about Freedom of Speech and Expression.  I can handle people who don't always see things the same way as I do.  But I'll be damned if you think I am going to sit there and let you spew "information" at me that is not only inaccurate but also insulting.

It is not a secret that I am a child of divorce or that I was raised Catholic.  Apparently that was all the rage back in the day.  Get married in the 70's, have a few kids, get divorced in the 80's.  Whatever, not everyone I knew came from a divorced family but there were a few of us.  NOTHING WAS WRONG WITH US.  My parents and theirs thankfully raised us semi-normally. 

With that said I will not sit back at the age of f**king 30+ and listen to you tell me that kids of divorce are always f**ked up and lead awful pointless lives.  What?!?!?! Listen here @$$hole, I know quite a few children of divorce and while yes some of them have issues, MOST of us are fine.  We have grown up, have educations, have jobs, have spouses, some have kids, and almost all of us are happy and not on drugs or whatever other crazy $hit I just heard.  We didn't fall down the rabbit hole of drugs/financial instability or any of that nonsense YOU have been brainwashed to think.  Most of our parents remarried and we love our steps because they are GOOD PEOPLE! 

Also, just because a Catholic Marriage is annulled doesn't mean any kids in the marriage are now illegitimate.   What fear mongering non-sense have you been reading?!?!  Do NOT sit there and tell me that because my parents had their marriage annulled 12 years after the divorce and 8 years after being remarried that now me and my brothers are "illegitimate".  Educate yourself on YOUR religion before you make yourself look dumb.

While I can accept that you believe that and think that MY FAMILY is wrong, don't argue with me when I show you facts.  Don't tell me that my family did WRONG because they wanted their 2nd marriages blessed by the church after almost 10 years.  F**k they've been married for over 25 years now...whatcha think about that?  Still think its wrong...?  That's fine but call me "illegitimate" again and we are going to have an issue.  Because according to YOUR CHURCH, I am not. 


"For this reason (or for other reasons that render the marriage null and void) the Church, after an examination of the situation by the competent ecclesiastical tribunal, can declare the nullity of a marriage, i.e., that the marriage never existed. In this case the contracting parties are free to marry, provided the natural obligations of a previous union are discharged."

"Although an annulment is thus a declaration that "the marriage never existed", the Church recognizes that the relationship was a putative marriage, which gives rise to "natural obligations". In canon law, children conceived or born of either a valid or a putative marriage are considered legitimate..."


So okay yea my parents divorced and the marriage was nulled BUT according to the church (after an INVESTIGATION) it was deemed a valid or putative marriage i.e. WE ARE STILL LEGITIMATE.  So f**k off with your half @$$ED assessment of things you clearly know NOTHING ABOUT.


Also, children of divorce are not all predisposed to get divorced.  What cracked out preacher told you that?  In my experience many children of divorce are LESS likely to divorce (actually they are less likely to marry in the first place) BECAUSE they don't want to go through the BS. Meaning I know I don't want to go through what my parents went through therefore I'm gonna do my darnedest to NOT marry someone unless I think we can stick it out.  Does this include everyone, OF COURSE NOT, but neither does your assessment so go back in your high an mighty bubble and leave me alone. 


Rant over...PEOPLE SUCK!