I know the old adage is don't judge a book by its cover. And most times (in real life and movies) its the popular people judging the nerdy/different people. But that isn't always the case.
In High School I skirted the line. I wasn't popular but I wasn't unpopular. I was a super nerd into science and sci-fi but I was also on the dance team. Basically I got along with most people. There were occasions where I was picked on but it was few and far between at that point. (In grammar school...PICKED ON WAY MORE.) And I tried my hardest to not be associated with people who targeted and hurt others.
With that said I had no idea some people thought poorly of me. I found out recently that a band girl thought poorly of me just because I was on the dance team. I am well into my 30's and had no idea. Our paths crossed again and she was rude/mean to me and I couldn't figure out why. Like I would say something and she would have a snarky or rude comment. Would put me down in front of "her" friends. Would basically try to make me feel bad about even speaking. I was hurt and appalled that an adult who was picked on in HS would be such a bully and she has THREE kids...talk about setting an example. Especially someone I thought was kind and I was always kind to.
Finally I found out she thought because I was a dance team girl IN HIGH SCHOOL that I was not capable of being kind to anyone who wasn't popular IN HIGH SCHOOL so she was mean to me. WHAT THE ACTUAL F**K?!?!? She thought in HS when I was being nice, that it wasn't genuine. That I was trying to get "points" for being nice to the band geeks. That I was FRIENDS with "nerds" to up my status. The list was f**king insane.
My BEST FRIEND was a "band nerd". I hung out with boys from the band not just the dance team, cheerleaders, and football players. I was friends with everyone. I was so hurt that someone even thought that stuff about me. Then I found out that the reason "her" friends were standoffish with me is because she convinced them people like me weren't actually nice, it was all a front.
Are you serious right now?!?! This is a type bullying also, just saying! And I wasn't the one putting on a "front". I have removed myself from that situation. I might have been semi-popular in HS but that doesn't mean I deserve to be treated horribly by a "victim". I never judged her...EVER...but she judged me just because of a stupid stereotype.
In conclusion, people suck!
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