While I know we all have our faults; we all learn new things everyday. The day I think I know it all slap me, because you NEVER know everything.
With that said the way people react to situations really speaks volumes to me. When we win a "battle" our natural instinct is to celebrate. But knowing when that celebration is appropriate shows maturity.
We wont always get our way. Things happen, sometimes we lose. But just because we "win" doesn't mean we can take joy in someone's loss. At least not in front of them. Gloating is one of the biggest signs of immaturity. We all do it, have done it, but there are some situations where you should NEVER DO IT. Usually these are serious situations, like oh I dunno...death.
Death can brings families together or tear them apart. I seem to be bearing witness to a "tear them apart" situation. And its all because the "adults" can't play nice. They seem to all want to screw each other out of their meager inheritances. They are bragging about what they 'got' or have power of. There is a will that states how things should be but people are bucking the system. They are fighting. They are manipulating. They aren't playing fair. And I don't understand. Someone you love DIED! Do you think they would want you fighting over what THEY already took care of.
I'm the eldest so I should get _______________
I'm the only girl so I should get ______________
I'm the baby so I should get ________________
I am, I am, I am...its all f**king bull$hit!
THIS DOESN'T MATTER! None of this matters. The tomb wasn't even closed before you started f**king fighting!
If I was your parent I would have donated everything to charity and said f**k all y'all ungrateful heathens. They KNEW this would happen, that is why there is a will. A LEGAL WILL! In the end, nothing else matters. You are family. You are SIBLINGS. Materialistic $hit doesn't matter. You are all over 60 and have no idea how to be a mature adult. How did this happen? You say the baby boomers are the *insert amazing feat* generation. But you aren't.
You know what you are? You are the reason our world is dying. You are the reason our economy is failing. You are the reason we are all drowning in debt. You are the reason I can barely survive with a f**king Masters Degree. You created the millennials and now are complaining about us (yea, apparently I am a "millennial"). You are the greediest, most selfish generation I've come across. You don't see reason, you only see ways to take from everyone else without giving crap. And I am done.
SIDE NOTE - obviously its not all "baby boomers". I know many are reasonable. They tend to be more educated and HUMBLE. Look, there are bad seeds in every group but the ones I've been "privileged" enough to be around lately are 100% awful.
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Monday, June 8, 2015
What the heck did I do now?!? Nothing, I did nothing...in case you were wondering :P
I love being on the receiving end of someone else's bad day. Yes, I know we all have them. Yes, I know we are all human but don't forget... just because you are having a craptastic day doesn't mean you have to make everyone else's day craptastic as well.
I always try to put on a happy face. And even if I can't, I attempt to remember that the cashier at the grocery, the rep on the phone, my husband, etc. more than likely didn't do "it". They didn't do anything wrong so I shouldn't take out my frustrations on them just because they happen to be in my vicinity.
$hit happens...emails don't go through, things fall through the cracks...people don't want to do their jobs...if these things happen to you it SUCKS big donkey d but it doesn't mean you have to be a tornado of rage and bring everyone else down with you. I hate it when I am having a wonderful (or even just a decent) day and someone absolutely rips me apart FOR NO REASON except I happened to answer the phone/email/text. It blows my mind! I think it is because I am so conscientious of everyone else's feelings now that I am taken aback when others don't reciprocate that same conscientiousness.
I guess, I think, you don't know what is happening in their day. What if you lash out at someone who is already in a downward spiral and they lose hope? They are teetering on the edge and you don't just nudge them over, you DESTROY them, all because you are having a craptastic day. Your unnecessary venom could affect them much more than you realize. Plus, your problems that seem like the end of the world to you could be so trivial compared to what someone else is mentally going through yet they may keep their's hidden behind a small smile.
So you have an issue but you haven't addressed it with the company you have an issue with. While I know I sometimes have a tendency to be sarcastic, I will normally not go that route initially, depending on what I am told. I will first tell you "take a breath and call them to see what you can do, it is probably an easy fix." THAT is a nice thing. THAT is me trying to neutralize the anger. THAT is me trying to f**king help! I honestly would not expect to get a "f**k you too, b**ch!" back in response. I am not sure why I deserved that but okay. I don't respond to that; I won't respond to that. THAT is a person trying to start a fight with you because they are mad at someone else. So I stayed quiet. That should have been the end of it. A mentally STABLE person would have realized they overreacted and stopped texting or apologized. Nope, not in my case. I received at least 4 more texts detailing why I am a horrible person for not supporting them in their anger at x-company. WTF?!? I am not one to throw guilt usually but I will make you feel like an @$$ if you push me too far. After I received a text stating I was a coward for not saying anything, I finally had enough of the "verbal" abuse and replied. "I am sorry if I am not as chatty as usual, you see I am not exactly having the greatest day either. I just found out my old dog is dying of bone cancer. But in relation to our previous exchange about your life altering problem, I still think you should call x-company and ask for some assistance." *crickets*
Not my proudest moment but I got my point across. Yea your day sucks and yea you took it out on me and yea you had no idea what I was dealing with but that doesn't make it okay. You didn't stop at one attack. You continued to use me as a punching bag just because you thought you could, because I am family and that's what I am here for...I guess. People laugh at me when I say I had a "f**ked up childhood" because they only see my family when they are "normal" or in other words, behaving because others are watching. I am not kidding, you try having an immediate family that can snap in a split second. Never knowing if what you say is going to trigger some bat$hit crazy response. I am a firm believer in "family don't end with blood" because I can say with 100% confidence most of my "family" has zero genetic relation to me.
I always try to put on a happy face. And even if I can't, I attempt to remember that the cashier at the grocery, the rep on the phone, my husband, etc. more than likely didn't do "it". They didn't do anything wrong so I shouldn't take out my frustrations on them just because they happen to be in my vicinity.
$hit happens...emails don't go through, things fall through the cracks...people don't want to do their jobs...if these things happen to you it SUCKS big donkey d but it doesn't mean you have to be a tornado of rage and bring everyone else down with you. I hate it when I am having a wonderful (or even just a decent) day and someone absolutely rips me apart FOR NO REASON except I happened to answer the phone/email/text. It blows my mind! I think it is because I am so conscientious of everyone else's feelings now that I am taken aback when others don't reciprocate that same conscientiousness.
I guess, I think, you don't know what is happening in their day. What if you lash out at someone who is already in a downward spiral and they lose hope? They are teetering on the edge and you don't just nudge them over, you DESTROY them, all because you are having a craptastic day. Your unnecessary venom could affect them much more than you realize. Plus, your problems that seem like the end of the world to you could be so trivial compared to what someone else is mentally going through yet they may keep their's hidden behind a small smile.
So you have an issue but you haven't addressed it with the company you have an issue with. While I know I sometimes have a tendency to be sarcastic, I will normally not go that route initially, depending on what I am told. I will first tell you "take a breath and call them to see what you can do, it is probably an easy fix." THAT is a nice thing. THAT is me trying to neutralize the anger. THAT is me trying to f**king help! I honestly would not expect to get a "f**k you too, b**ch!" back in response. I am not sure why I deserved that but okay. I don't respond to that; I won't respond to that. THAT is a person trying to start a fight with you because they are mad at someone else. So I stayed quiet. That should have been the end of it. A mentally STABLE person would have realized they overreacted and stopped texting or apologized. Nope, not in my case. I received at least 4 more texts detailing why I am a horrible person for not supporting them in their anger at x-company. WTF?!? I am not one to throw guilt usually but I will make you feel like an @$$ if you push me too far. After I received a text stating I was a coward for not saying anything, I finally had enough of the "verbal" abuse and replied. "I am sorry if I am not as chatty as usual, you see I am not exactly having the greatest day either. I just found out my old dog is dying of bone cancer. But in relation to our previous exchange about your life altering problem, I still think you should call x-company and ask for some assistance." *crickets*
Not my proudest moment but I got my point across. Yea your day sucks and yea you took it out on me and yea you had no idea what I was dealing with but that doesn't make it okay. You didn't stop at one attack. You continued to use me as a punching bag just because you thought you could, because I am family and that's what I am here for...I guess. People laugh at me when I say I had a "f**ked up childhood" because they only see my family when they are "normal" or in other words, behaving because others are watching. I am not kidding, you try having an immediate family that can snap in a split second. Never knowing if what you say is going to trigger some bat$hit crazy response. I am a firm believer in "family don't end with blood" because I can say with 100% confidence most of my "family" has zero genetic relation to me.
Monday, January 19, 2015
That is so NOT okay
We all have self confidence issues. Well most of us do. There are days where you can't bear to look at your reflection or just plain don't want to leave your house because you think you look bad or feel bad about yourself. It is unfortunate but it happens to the best of us. The flip side of that is when you start feeling better about yourself so your confidence soars to new heights and it is evident to everyone that you are happy. I am not talking bi-polar mood swings just the normal we all get down in the dumps about our appearance, etc type stuff.
What happens a lot of times though is you are on the upswing but you aren't quite back to your normal semi-confident self yet so you mask it. I mask it by forcing myself to smile and have fun. I personally don't think that is a bad thing but a shrink may disagree. It actually helps me to get back on track faster. Others mask it differently by putting others down and that is why I say "that is so NOT okay".
Just because you feel down about yourself does not mean you have the right to put everyone else down. Yea you might be on the "upswing" of your whatever but trying to make everyone else look bad is not okay. So you started working out, good on you but that doesn't give you an open to make a snide comment about someone else's weight...not even in jest (and saying "no offense"doesn't negate what was said). So you got a new electronic doohickey that everyone else has, awesome sauce, just because someone else has a different brand or version does not make yours/theirs better/worse. They do the same effing thing...why is this now a competition. You have problems at home...I am sorry...I really am but do not deflect your home issues onto everyone else in public. Just because you want to have complete control of your sig other doesn't mean everyone else does...so when they are inquisitive it's not to be controlling...it's probably because they either didn't hear or are curious.
But the worst...the absolute worst is putting down a child. And don't tell me "I'm just kidding". There are ways to be sarcastic and funny with kids where they know you are being sarcastic and funny and still love them to bits. If a child looks at you like you ripped their heart out, they do not get the joke. You just crushed them. And honestly, if you would have spoken to me that way I probably wouldn't have laughed either. Instinctively we pick up on underlying tones. You can smile all day long but something in the tone of voice, in the glint of the eyes, hints that you aren't really joking. In addition...who the eff calls a child or baby ugly?!?!? What is so wrong in your life that you have to say something that horrible?!?! Yea it may not have been said to their face but what is the point of even voicing that thought. Saying a child is bratty...okay I get that I guess but flat out saying an innocent baby is ugly...what is wrong with you?!?!
Sure some kids are traditionally cuter than others but come on! I don't think I have ever looked at a child and thought "ugly".
It is not in my nature. I tend to see beauty in everyone. Not kidding, I have always been this way which is why people always said I dated "below my standards" or was "too pretty" to be friends with some. It is because I saw past everything our society says is "unattractive". It is obvious these persons are going through something and are lashing out. Yes they may tell us about all the wonderful things happening to them and complain about the mundane stuff but clearly something else is going on. We are well out of our uninformed youth, being mean/a bully to anyone, much less a child, is uncalled for 100% of the time.
Truthfully, I don't think some people realize what they are doing. It is like a defense mechanism but that still isn't an excuse. And responding with "I am not apologizing for being me" doesn't wipe the slate clean either. You can be you without crushing someone else. It concerns me how oblivious people are about their actions. What if something you said or did because you felt bad about yourself pushed someone over the edge?!? How would you feel knowing your "joking" caused someone to choose anorexia or to otherwise hurt themselves?!?! It happens, I witnessed it first hand. Uncles "joking" with their niece about her weight because she was ever so slightly bigger than the other kids. She almost died! She nearly starved herself to death!!! It was flipping baby fat you assholes! Was I the only one that saw past the "unattractive" body type of a CHILD??? Because of you she damaged her body and mind!
What happens a lot of times though is you are on the upswing but you aren't quite back to your normal semi-confident self yet so you mask it. I mask it by forcing myself to smile and have fun. I personally don't think that is a bad thing but a shrink may disagree. It actually helps me to get back on track faster. Others mask it differently by putting others down and that is why I say "that is so NOT okay".
Just because you feel down about yourself does not mean you have the right to put everyone else down. Yea you might be on the "upswing" of your whatever but trying to make everyone else look bad is not okay. So you started working out, good on you but that doesn't give you an open to make a snide comment about someone else's weight...not even in jest (and saying "no offense"doesn't negate what was said). So you got a new electronic doohickey that everyone else has, awesome sauce, just because someone else has a different brand or version does not make yours/theirs better/worse. They do the same effing thing...why is this now a competition. You have problems at home...I am sorry...I really am but do not deflect your home issues onto everyone else in public. Just because you want to have complete control of your sig other doesn't mean everyone else does...so when they are inquisitive it's not to be controlling...it's probably because they either didn't hear or are curious.
But the worst...the absolute worst is putting down a child. And don't tell me "I'm just kidding". There are ways to be sarcastic and funny with kids where they know you are being sarcastic and funny and still love them to bits. If a child looks at you like you ripped their heart out, they do not get the joke. You just crushed them. And honestly, if you would have spoken to me that way I probably wouldn't have laughed either. Instinctively we pick up on underlying tones. You can smile all day long but something in the tone of voice, in the glint of the eyes, hints that you aren't really joking. In addition...who the eff calls a child or baby ugly?!?!? What is so wrong in your life that you have to say something that horrible?!?! Yea it may not have been said to their face but what is the point of even voicing that thought. Saying a child is bratty...okay I get that I guess but flat out saying an innocent baby is ugly...what is wrong with you?!?!Sure some kids are traditionally cuter than others but come on! I don't think I have ever looked at a child and thought "ugly".
It is not in my nature. I tend to see beauty in everyone. Not kidding, I have always been this way which is why people always said I dated "below my standards" or was "too pretty" to be friends with some. It is because I saw past everything our society says is "unattractive". It is obvious these persons are going through something and are lashing out. Yes they may tell us about all the wonderful things happening to them and complain about the mundane stuff but clearly something else is going on. We are well out of our uninformed youth, being mean/a bully to anyone, much less a child, is uncalled for 100% of the time.
Truthfully, I don't think some people realize what they are doing. It is like a defense mechanism but that still isn't an excuse. And responding with "I am not apologizing for being me" doesn't wipe the slate clean either. You can be you without crushing someone else. It concerns me how oblivious people are about their actions. What if something you said or did because you felt bad about yourself pushed someone over the edge?!? How would you feel knowing your "joking" caused someone to choose anorexia or to otherwise hurt themselves?!?! It happens, I witnessed it first hand. Uncles "joking" with their niece about her weight because she was ever so slightly bigger than the other kids. She almost died! She nearly starved herself to death!!! It was flipping baby fat you assholes! Was I the only one that saw past the "unattractive" body type of a CHILD??? Because of you she damaged her body and mind!
**NOTE** I am not talking about goodhearted joking amongst friends/family. I am talking about the words in jest laced with venom said for no apparent reason.
These aren't my images, I google searched them to make a point.
Thursday, October 30, 2014
Why can't adults WITHOUT kids appreciate Halloween???
Halloween is by far my favorite holiday. It always has been, since I was a wee little one. I've never really paid much attention to those who always say "grow up" but lately they've been irritating me more and more. Not because I need to "grow up" but more so because they need to "lighten up"! Growing up does not mean having to stop enjoying life, geesh.
I consider myself a fairly mature person...well depending on the company I keep...add a couple of my friends and all bets are off. Anyway, I find it hilarious that some feel that my need to decorate and dress up for Halloween insinuates I am immature but only because I do not have children. Once I have kids I am free to have fun again BUT only for the children...not for me.
Does this make any sense? So are you telling me that those who decorate and celebrate Christmas need to grow up also...I mean if they don't have kids why put up a tree and exchange presents??? No this doesn't make any sense. Yes, of course, it is magical for children (holidays in general) but just because you are an adult doesn't mean you have to stop appreciating the magic. I am not going trick or treating...well I am but its with kids...I'm not trick or treating alone, I am not that crazy. I decorate my house to look "spooky". I dress up in costume to hand out candy. The parents seem to love it so why all the hate??? Also, in case you haven't caught on, I do it because I enjoy it! I like walking into my house all during October and seeing pumpkins and skeletons and spiders..."Oh my!" I also find it hilarious that a black cat is terrified of the decor but the other animals are all "meh".
So screw off all you haters. I love Halloween and if I want to decorate and dress up and carve pumpkins, I will! Not because I am immature but because it is something I enjoy. If you don't like it blow me :P I will continue having my fun and you can continue being boring. I personally think on some level you are jealous because I still know how to have fun and you have succumbed to the pressures of society to be like everyone else. Have "fun" with that, NOLAGurl out.
I consider myself a fairly mature person...well depending on the company I keep...add a couple of my friends and all bets are off. Anyway, I find it hilarious that some feel that my need to decorate and dress up for Halloween insinuates I am immature but only because I do not have children. Once I have kids I am free to have fun again BUT only for the children...not for me.
Does this make any sense? So are you telling me that those who decorate and celebrate Christmas need to grow up also...I mean if they don't have kids why put up a tree and exchange presents??? No this doesn't make any sense. Yes, of course, it is magical for children (holidays in general) but just because you are an adult doesn't mean you have to stop appreciating the magic. I am not going trick or treating...well I am but its with kids...I'm not trick or treating alone, I am not that crazy. I decorate my house to look "spooky". I dress up in costume to hand out candy. The parents seem to love it so why all the hate??? Also, in case you haven't caught on, I do it because I enjoy it! I like walking into my house all during October and seeing pumpkins and skeletons and spiders..."Oh my!" I also find it hilarious that a black cat is terrified of the decor but the other animals are all "meh".
So screw off all you haters. I love Halloween and if I want to decorate and dress up and carve pumpkins, I will! Not because I am immature but because it is something I enjoy. If you don't like it blow me :P I will continue having my fun and you can continue being boring. I personally think on some level you are jealous because I still know how to have fun and you have succumbed to the pressures of society to be like everyone else. Have "fun" with that, NOLAGurl out.
Thursday, August 28, 2014
I am totally a time traveler
That is the only explanation. I have somehow been zapped back into the dark ages. Or maybe the early 1900's. Or maybe I am in a totally different universe, as in Game of Thrones. You know where is is acceptable for men to think they can control women! Even in Game of Thrones they are trying to break that habit (hello, Asha...Cersi...Arya...)!
But alas it is 2014 and I want to punch someone so bad I am shaking! I wont go into complete details but there was drama. I mean all out stupid "on Wednesdays we wear pink " type drama (as in High School). Yet we aren't in High School, much less the movie mean girls so why all the drama?!?!?
I'll tell you why. Because someone who happens to have a penis thinks he can tell the rest of us (who don't have that appendage) what we can and cannot do. And this isn't a boss-man. A boss-man has the right to BOSS you around some (he signs your paycheck). No this person isn't any of our bosses, he's not a policeman or anything like that, he just happens to share our bloodline. Seriously, why should anyone care who I (we) talk to...family is family...why should I not speak to someone because you have a beef with, not them, but their "other" family. So because of that we cannot associate with our family. I, just...what?!
Listen up you Lannister wanna be. You ain't my daddy and you ain't my husband (which in GoT could be one in the same) and even if you were I still wouldn't listen. You know why? Because I am a grown ass woman and there is no flipping way I am going to let you tell me (or the other females) what I can and cannot do. And if I ever here you say "*she* should have known her place" in front of me, holding back a slap will be very difficult. Granted this phrase wasn't directed at me but another female and I wasn't there when it was said. But who says that??? That is like the ultimate verbal slap to any female. It almost as bad as "shhh, the men are talking" or "why don't you go fix me a sandwich". Ya know what F you, you F-ing, F-er! I don't care if we are related you will not speak to anyone like that!
And be glad this isn't GoT, because if it was your ass would have been poisoned by now or shot with an arrow while on the loo by the son you don't really claim.
Having peen does not give you privileges. Having no peen does not take away my rights. Basically being male/female/undecided does not mean others have to bend to your will. We are all human get over yourself!
Ugh, I cannot believe this even happened. The nerve!
But alas it is 2014 and I want to punch someone so bad I am shaking! I wont go into complete details but there was drama. I mean all out stupid "on Wednesdays we wear pink " type drama (as in High School). Yet we aren't in High School, much less the movie mean girls so why all the drama?!?!?
I'll tell you why. Because someone who happens to have a penis thinks he can tell the rest of us (who don't have that appendage) what we can and cannot do. And this isn't a boss-man. A boss-man has the right to BOSS you around some (he signs your paycheck). No this person isn't any of our bosses, he's not a policeman or anything like that, he just happens to share our bloodline. Seriously, why should anyone care who I (we) talk to...family is family...why should I not speak to someone because you have a beef with, not them, but their "other" family. So because of that we cannot associate with our family. I, just...what?!
Listen up you Lannister wanna be. You ain't my daddy and you ain't my husband (which in GoT could be one in the same) and even if you were I still wouldn't listen. You know why? Because I am a grown ass woman and there is no flipping way I am going to let you tell me (or the other females) what I can and cannot do. And if I ever here you say "*she* should have known her place" in front of me, holding back a slap will be very difficult. Granted this phrase wasn't directed at me but another female and I wasn't there when it was said. But who says that??? That is like the ultimate verbal slap to any female. It almost as bad as "shhh, the men are talking" or "why don't you go fix me a sandwich". Ya know what F you, you F-ing, F-er! I don't care if we are related you will not speak to anyone like that!
And be glad this isn't GoT, because if it was your ass would have been poisoned by now or shot with an arrow while on the loo by the son you don't really claim.
Having peen does not give you privileges. Having no peen does not take away my rights. Basically being male/female/undecided does not mean others have to bend to your will. We are all human get over yourself!
Ugh, I cannot believe this even happened. The nerve!
Wednesday, May 21, 2014
I thought you were supposed to mature with age...?
I know we all have our moments of immaturity but I find some people just act like spoiled brats well into adult hood.
The sad thing is I am not even talking about persons my age (or younger)...I am talking about people who are well passed 50. I just don't get it. I get that with age comes a lack of caring what others think but acting like a scorned tween is just beyond annoying.
I never expected someone older than me to resort to this kind of behavior. I had to cancel on something last minute. I was stuck and couldn't get out of a previous engagement that ran over. Since I couldn't make a call I sent a text apologizing profusely and suggesting they go on without me. This would entail driving themselves. I never got a reply. So when I was leaving my prior engagement I called. No answer. Hmmm, maybe they decided to buck up and drive, cool.
A few phone calls and texts later I decided they were either dead or ignoring me. I was leaning towards the latter. So I sent a text requesting them to acknowledge they were indeed alive and *ding* got a response. Ahhhhh, I see now. So we ARE in fact ignoring me. It has been 4 days and still no conversation...nada. I guess we are still mad. I don't get it. Yes, of course I was upset I missed the event but I had no choice unless I left in the middle of something else and that is just rude. The person hosting the event I missed was not angry. She totally understood and we made plans to meet up at a later date. Yet my temper tantrum throwing adult is still immensely upset with me. Sorry but I am not sorry. Okay, I am sorry I missed the other event but I am not sorry that you missed it. You could have gone without me. Don't be mad at me because you chose not to drive someplace you were not 100% familiar with. I do it all the time, grow up. Print a map...or something. I was being nice agreeing to rush from the other event to meet you someplace to pick you up so you wouldn't have to stress about driving but it is not my responsibility to make sure you have a ride when you are perfectly capable of driving yourself. I had plans already...plans you knew about...plans that I said before hand may prevent me from making it to the other event and you chose to ignore me.
Being angry with me the day of is one thing but ignoring my calls and texts for DAYS is a whole other level. If you cannot be an adult and speak to me and tell me you are upset I am not going to call you anymore. I will wait until you are ready to be mature, I am not begging for forgiveness. I apologized, I tried to call and apologize ...now I want an apology for having to deal with this BS but I am not going pursue it. I refuse to be a part of your drama. I have better things to do than stress about whether or not you are mad at me because of something so trivial.
Does anyone else have this issue with an adult(s)?!? Or am I the only one blessed with this type of person.
The sad thing is I am not even talking about persons my age (or younger)...I am talking about people who are well passed 50. I just don't get it. I get that with age comes a lack of caring what others think but acting like a scorned tween is just beyond annoying.
I never expected someone older than me to resort to this kind of behavior. I had to cancel on something last minute. I was stuck and couldn't get out of a previous engagement that ran over. Since I couldn't make a call I sent a text apologizing profusely and suggesting they go on without me. This would entail driving themselves. I never got a reply. So when I was leaving my prior engagement I called. No answer. Hmmm, maybe they decided to buck up and drive, cool.
A few phone calls and texts later I decided they were either dead or ignoring me. I was leaning towards the latter. So I sent a text requesting them to acknowledge they were indeed alive and *ding* got a response. Ahhhhh, I see now. So we ARE in fact ignoring me. It has been 4 days and still no conversation...nada. I guess we are still mad. I don't get it. Yes, of course I was upset I missed the event but I had no choice unless I left in the middle of something else and that is just rude. The person hosting the event I missed was not angry. She totally understood and we made plans to meet up at a later date. Yet my temper tantrum throwing adult is still immensely upset with me. Sorry but I am not sorry. Okay, I am sorry I missed the other event but I am not sorry that you missed it. You could have gone without me. Don't be mad at me because you chose not to drive someplace you were not 100% familiar with. I do it all the time, grow up. Print a map...or something. I was being nice agreeing to rush from the other event to meet you someplace to pick you up so you wouldn't have to stress about driving but it is not my responsibility to make sure you have a ride when you are perfectly capable of driving yourself. I had plans already...plans you knew about...plans that I said before hand may prevent me from making it to the other event and you chose to ignore me.
Being angry with me the day of is one thing but ignoring my calls and texts for DAYS is a whole other level. If you cannot be an adult and speak to me and tell me you are upset I am not going to call you anymore. I will wait until you are ready to be mature, I am not begging for forgiveness. I apologized, I tried to call and apologize ...now I want an apology for having to deal with this BS but I am not going pursue it. I refuse to be a part of your drama. I have better things to do than stress about whether or not you are mad at me because of something so trivial.
Does anyone else have this issue with an adult(s)?!? Or am I the only one blessed with this type of person.
Monday, March 10, 2014
Stop hiding behind the internet!
Okay I guess that may seem slightly hypocritical as I complain and talk about many different things here BUT I have never deliberately called someone out on my blog. I may talk about people but there are no names mentioned, not enough description to figure out who it is and I am not being passive aggressive just telling funny stories for the most part or giving lessons in life based on my experiences.
What I am talking about here are two specific types of people. I am talking about the Facebookers who hide behind the fact that they aren't actually face to face with a person and the "anonymous" commenter on Tumblr (or similar type site). In recent years I have noticed an increase in people wanting to shout their opinions into cyberspace, not caring who they run over in the process. And ya know what, I really don't care. Everyone...and I mean EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinions. Some I agree with or relate to and some I don't but just because I don't agree with their opinion does not mean its wrong or that I can't be friends with you. It just means I see things a little differently. So what is an opinion?
"In general, an opinion is a judgment, viewpoint, or statement about matters commonly considered to be subjective, i.e. based on that which is less than absolutely certain, and is the result of emotion or interpretation of facts."
An opinion is not a fact and it is not a law. It is your own interpretation of a situation. It does not make you right or wrong...it is a show of your beliefs. Many will try to change your opinion and that is okay too. Its like an educational thing. If I think one way and you explain it to me differently, that may help me see it from your point of view and change or mold my original interpretation of things. But don't get pissed at me for trying to explain my POV just because it differs from yours. I am not trying to be an ass...I am expressing my views just like you are...it is an opinion! If everything offends you then don't broach the subject if you don't want a reply.
On the interwebs I usually steer clear of potentially heated discussions, mainly because its hard to express your opinion properly when someone can't see your face and things can be taken out of context. What I've noticed lately is those who feel "slighted" by society, seem to be using Facebook (or other social media) to attack unsuspecting "friends" based on said "friends" opinion on something. If you don't want to friend someone on Facebook, IGNORE the friend request or delete them. You don't have to give a reason, just ignore it. That is how a mature person should handle the situation (at least in my OPINION). But don't go calling them out in a passive-aggressive Facebook status because you don't agree with something they posted. Seriously who cares...you clearly aren't friends with this person to begin with...you probably popped up as a suggested friend and they clicked "friend request". Don't turn it into an internet war where you private message them provoking them and then publicly post their responses for your "friends" to see. What purpose does that serve? You post their full name and their idiotic response...so what...you are just as much of an ass for provoking them. Yea maybe their views are racist or prejudice...I sure as hell don't agree with them BUT what is the purpose of starting the fight to begin with? My opinion is if you aren't brave enough to say it to someones face don't say it online. You my friend are hiding behind the internet. You are an adult, older than I am and you are acting like a "mean girl". Most people I have seen do this are the kindest people in person and I guarantee you if they saw these people on the street they would be sweet as pie to them or avoid them all together. And you people that are egging them on are nothing but a bunch of minions. I bet most of you wouldn't do a thing in person so stop supporting this childish behavior. And yes I would say this to anyone's face IF and that's a big IF they are brave enough to broach the subject to my face. Its just I see this back and forth online and it makes it hard for me to accept the kind person I see in person. It makes me think that is all an act and then I don't want to be friends with you anymore. Not because of your opinion...because of your seemingly fake/split personality.
This also goes for the "anonymous" responder. If you aren't brave enough to respond with your real name/user name then you shouldn't be replying. You are being a coward and a jerk. I experienced an example of this the other day on one of these sites. I made a comment about a character on a TV show. Nothing that bad just an opinion. The way the person was acting on the show made me dislike her and think of her as spoiled and bratty. I received a response from an Anon saying "That's okay you think she is a brat, because we think you are an asshole, Now keep your hate out of this tag! Dickhead." Wow, okay then. First of all it wasn't hate exactly, it was an observation. Second of all I dislike the character but I love the show. Third I received numerous reblogs and likes on my comment so clearly using the phrase "we think" does not encompass the entire Fandom. This is not "we think" this is you think. If you think I am an ass/dickhead, whatever but don't hide behind Anon and don't generalize the entire Fandom. I didn't respond. If you can't hate message me off Anon you don't deserve a response. Granted this wasn't bad but it was annoying. I saw a better example yesterday. Someone messaged another user saying "I hope you die". That is a bit extreme. The funniest part is the person forgot to put themselves on Anon and freaked out because the user could see who it was and was begging the other person to delete the message because they didn't want anyone to be mad at them. The user posted the message for everyone to see. Maybe they were being just as much of an ass by calling them out publicly but I see how they were making a point (similar to the one I am making here). They were attacked for no reason, they didn't provoke it as far as I could tell. It was just a hateful person wanting to be a jerk. This is a perfect example of hiding behind the internet. They were all "brave" to tell this person to die while they were anonymous and then retracted because they didn't want to be seen as a bad person. I am almost certain these people are probably much younger (maybe not, who knows) than me but they should learn at a young age that you better be able to back up what you say.
My point is you can't hide behind the internet forever. It will catch up to you. And one day you are going to be a jerk to the wrong person online and they are going to get back at you. Whether it is online or in person one day Karma is going to bite you in the ass and honestly I am not going to feel sorry for you. What if the Facebook person gets fired because you provoked them into those responses. What if one of your "followers" takes revenge on them on your behalf? How would you feel about that? What if they were having a bad day and said those things out of anger or if you took their posts out of context? They are still not politically correct but I am just saying. How would you like it if someone took something you said out of context and you got hate for it? Its just messed up and people should realize that. "If you can't say something nice, say nothing"...or better yet if you must say something, be an adult about it and quit hiding behind the interwebs!
This is my opinion...I hope it wasn't offensive but regardless it is still just an opinion...I'll respect yours if you respect mine.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
I think I need a restraining order!
How dumb can one guy be?!
IG: hello NOLAGurl
NOLAGurl: Im filing my taxes whats up
IG: oh u know..
IG: just kind of wondering why i havent heard from you in almost 2 weeks
NOLAGurl: because you sent me a jackass text the other night so I figured it wasn't worth calling
IG: lets see, his face is the only guys face in your pics, lets rewind the clock here, your promos, Halloween, Abita Christmas Bash, BCS Championship, Rascal Flatts, Irish-Italian parade, shall i go on? anyway, all the time u make for your friend, "Purple ______" which im beginning to wonder to just how u know that exactly now....anyway, u call me a jackass, thats fine...
IG: youve been nothing but a lying bitch this whole time to me anyway whos done nothing but waste my time
NOLAGurl: Your an ass, thanks. insult me all you want. your suspicious, insecure attitude didn't help. And yes maybe I am seeing someone else now....or at least thinking about it... and NO ITS NOT ________
IG: i dont give a fuck who it is, thanks for wasting 7 months of my life
NOLAGurl: good bye IG
IG: i was nothing but understanding of you and all your emotional drama and bullshit and lies
IG: look where that got me
NOLAGurl: You blame everything on everyone else. I am a liar with emotional drama. You are a mama's boy who never grew up. I cared about you. Take that for what its worth. And no you weren't understanding you just like to tell yourself that
IG: hmm u live with your ex
IG: go out constantly and gotten fucked up how many times?
IG: and blew me off for the holidays
IG: and dresses like a teeny bopper for concerts
IG: and im the one who hasnt grown up?
NOLAGurl: We dressed up for NKOTB and your using that against me.... Look I need someone to like me for me.... And I know there are people out there that do/will. I like to be me. You never accepted that...and I think I may have found someone that does
IG: i never accepted being treated like shit
IG: i made all the effort
IG: u never did
IG: lets see our second date u were over an hour late
IG: lets see
IG: lsu-florida, u were too fucked up to see me, good thing i wasnt at Lagers already
IG: im in the quarter trying to meet with u and u dont answer ur phone, probably because u were with _______ or some shit
IG: Thanksgiving no effort
NOLAGurl: Um yea I wasn't with _______ and I was drugged for the LSU UF game…but thanks :P
IG: Christmas, blown off completely
IG: new years, never saw you
NOLAGurl: New years you hated me bc of christmas
IG: quite shocked i saw u for my birthday
NOLAGurl: Look I dont need to relive this and neither do you. I saw you for your bday bc I wantd to.
IG: what else a few weeks ago, u call me in th wee hours of the night
IG: working u promo, and u were trashed
NOLAGurl: I wasn't trashed asshole. I know why you have issues with women, you change everything to fit your reality. honestly Im not sure any of them were crazy...they were probably normal and got tired of your bull.
IG: hmmm youre the only real crazy one ive dated NOLAGurl
IG: youre 27, and act like youre 17, and the only thing u have on me, is that im at home right now, even though im currently working on resolving that as we speak, not that u need to know that
NOLAGurl: Good for you. I dont act like I am17. Just bc I have a life and you don’t does not make me 17. What makes me 17. My mortgage, my job, my love life? Really....most people think I am much older.... having fun and being immature are two different things. I have responsabilities...lots of them... and I am working on my situation too, not that you need to know that.
IG: just like u were working on it back in August right?
NOLAGurl: Nope actually different but it wouldn't matter to you. I'd move out and you'd find something else to hold over my head.... I'd stop going out and then something else would surface....I'd alienate my friends and then you'd finally be happy maybe. I dont really care anymore. I wanted to do this right but whats the point.
IG: just like the reason u didnt want me over in the beginning, had absolutely nothing to do with EX right?
NOLAGurl: huh?
IG: exactly how were u gonna make this right? just continue to ignore me?
NOLAGurl: No. BUT I wasn’t going to tell you to eff off via IM. I was going to be an adult about it and have a conversation...then you texted me on Monday about _______ which infuriated me and my date. I decided at that point it was pointless. there is no making you happy
IG: well lets talk now, what exactly did u want to say?
NOLAGurl: whats the point so you can tell me Im lying, imply that im a whore or try to make me think something wrong with me for being me....or refusing to end a friendship bc your insecure. Which part would end well???
Ok so the best way to a woman's heart is...by calling her a whore and then asking why she doesn't want to be with you...right?! OK so I was gonna do this right and actually try to talk to him...because thats how I roll. But the other night he texted me and said "So are you and ______ together now?" WHAT?!?!?! Seriously!? So at that point I decided he could rot in hell :P.
Tonight he messaged me...here is the conversation:
NOLAGurl: Im filing my taxes whats up
IG: oh u know..
IG: just kind of wondering why i havent heard from you in almost 2 weeks
NOLAGurl: because you sent me a jackass text the other night so I figured it wasn't worth calling
IG: lets see, his face is the only guys face in your pics, lets rewind the clock here, your promos, Halloween, Abita Christmas Bash, BCS Championship, Rascal Flatts, Irish-Italian parade, shall i go on? anyway, all the time u make for your friend, "Purple ______" which im beginning to wonder to just how u know that exactly now....anyway, u call me a jackass, thats fine...
IG: youve been nothing but a lying bitch this whole time to me anyway whos done nothing but waste my time
NOLAGurl: Your an ass, thanks. insult me all you want. your suspicious, insecure attitude didn't help. And yes maybe I am seeing someone else now....or at least thinking about it... and NO ITS NOT ________
IG: i dont give a fuck who it is, thanks for wasting 7 months of my life
NOLAGurl: good bye IG
IG: i was nothing but understanding of you and all your emotional drama and bullshit and lies
IG: look where that got me
NOLAGurl: You blame everything on everyone else. I am a liar with emotional drama. You are a mama's boy who never grew up. I cared about you. Take that for what its worth. And no you weren't understanding you just like to tell yourself that
IG: hmm u live with your ex
IG: go out constantly and gotten fucked up how many times?
IG: and blew me off for the holidays
IG: and dresses like a teeny bopper for concerts
IG: and im the one who hasnt grown up?
NOLAGurl: We dressed up for NKOTB and your using that against me.... Look I need someone to like me for me.... And I know there are people out there that do/will. I like to be me. You never accepted that...and I think I may have found someone that does
IG: i never accepted being treated like shit
IG: i made all the effort
IG: u never did
IG: lets see our second date u were over an hour late
IG: lets see
IG: lsu-florida, u were too fucked up to see me, good thing i wasnt at Lagers already
IG: im in the quarter trying to meet with u and u dont answer ur phone, probably because u were with _______ or some shit
IG: Thanksgiving no effort
NOLAGurl: Um yea I wasn't with _______ and I was drugged for the LSU UF game…but thanks :P
IG: Christmas, blown off completely
IG: new years, never saw you
NOLAGurl: New years you hated me bc of christmas
IG: quite shocked i saw u for my birthday
NOLAGurl: Look I dont need to relive this and neither do you. I saw you for your bday bc I wantd to.
IG: what else a few weeks ago, u call me in th wee hours of the night
IG: working u promo, and u were trashed
NOLAGurl: I wasn't trashed asshole. I know why you have issues with women, you change everything to fit your reality. honestly Im not sure any of them were crazy...they were probably normal and got tired of your bull.
IG: hmmm youre the only real crazy one ive dated NOLAGurl
IG: youre 27, and act like youre 17, and the only thing u have on me, is that im at home right now, even though im currently working on resolving that as we speak, not that u need to know that
NOLAGurl: Good for you. I dont act like I am17. Just bc I have a life and you don’t does not make me 17. What makes me 17. My mortgage, my job, my love life? Really....most people think I am much older.... having fun and being immature are two different things. I have responsabilities...lots of them... and I am working on my situation too, not that you need to know that.
IG: just like u were working on it back in August right?
NOLAGurl: Nope actually different but it wouldn't matter to you. I'd move out and you'd find something else to hold over my head.... I'd stop going out and then something else would surface....I'd alienate my friends and then you'd finally be happy maybe. I dont really care anymore. I wanted to do this right but whats the point.
IG: just like the reason u didnt want me over in the beginning, had absolutely nothing to do with EX right?
NOLAGurl: huh?
IG: exactly how were u gonna make this right? just continue to ignore me?
NOLAGurl: No. BUT I wasn’t going to tell you to eff off via IM. I was going to be an adult about it and have a conversation...then you texted me on Monday about _______ which infuriated me and my date. I decided at that point it was pointless. there is no making you happy
IG: well lets talk now, what exactly did u want to say?
NOLAGurl: whats the point so you can tell me Im lying, imply that im a whore or try to make me think something wrong with me for being me....or refusing to end a friendship bc your insecure. Which part would end well???
As I type this he is still IMing me asking what I wanted to tell him and I have not responded. I am blocking him/deleting him on both social sites and vi IM. I attract PYCHO PATHS!
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