So like do I need to do a blood sacrifice or can I just light a candle?

I don't drive as much as I used to but holy crap other drivers are just as bad or possibly even worse!

The other night I was driving back to my temporary home very late.  It was dark and a little misty/humid but mostly a clear night. As I was approaching my exit I noticed a car weaving in and out of lanes a decent ways behind me.  I remember thinking, "what a moron!" as I pulled over into the exit lane.  The exit was backed up a bit so I was completely stopped.  I heard squealing tires and glanced up just in time to see a dark mass flying towards me.  It took a split second for my brain to process that the dark mass was in fact a car skidding sideways down the interstate and it was going to hit me.  All I could think was "oh $hit, this is gonna hurt".  I managed to kickstart my brain enough to cut the wheel towards the shoulder and gun it.  It all happened so quick but somehow the skidding car managed to regain control and missed me by mear millimeters.  She slowly went past me at about 5 mph and looked terrified.  I on the other had was wondering where the screaming was coming from and who $hit my pants. 

After I had a few sips of Whiskey and managed to finally get my heart rate below 150 bpm I began thinking.  She missed me by a HAIR!  Had I not managed to move the car ever so slightly to the shoulder I would have been CREAMED by a car flying sideways at about 70 MPH and I was at a complete stop.   

Exactly three days later in a steady rain I went to buy a last minute gift at lunch.  We are having our normal southern winter where it's either humid and 90 degrees or raining and 40 degrees.  It's super fun.  At least it's not snow/ice!  As I was driving in the RAIN, going the speed limit, I noticed some @$$hole tailing me.  I couldn't go anywhere but they insisted on just riding my @$$.  I couldn't see their headlights but could plainly see a giant Trump Flag & American flag flying above the roof.  Unfortunately they were also turning so they were tailing me into the shopping center.  When it opened to two lanes they gunned it passed me.  

They immediately lost control of their jeep, swerving into my lane. We were going maybe 30mph....I managed to slow down as I watched this jeep barely miss my front bumper, over-correct, and completely spin out.  

They ended up doing multiple doughnuts in the road and flying off into the grass.  Mind you there were other cars, signs, & posts everywhere, yet somehow this @$$hat managed to not hit anything.  The wheels rutted into the grass, yet again the lucky bastard didn't flip.  They were stuck but thankfully didn't hurt themselves or anyone else.  

In a few days I was almost clobbered twice by a reckless driver.  I feel like I should just stay home.  

What year is it?!?

 

I don't know what is in the water but holy crap I have never experienced so much chauvinism in ONE week. 

I am a professional.  I have been in various business roles for many many years.  I am intelligent.  I....am a threat...what?!?  Why is it.  WHY IS IT that if me, a female, shares an idea its $hit on but when a male shares the same or similar, its praised?!?!?  I literally said the same thing.  

Also, the fragility of these older men I work with is eye opening.  I am not being critical just trying to express my ideas.  Why can't I express my ideas without being put down?  Why do older men think they can just talk over me when they don't like what I have to say!?!?  To the point where I was like "can I finish answering your question before you start speaking again...please?"  It was so bad I had people messaging me after the call about how bad it was.  Its great and all that they noticed but why was everyone quiet?!?!  Almost no one came to my defense.  You know why?  Because half of them were also female and they are scared to LOSE THEIR JOB for speaking up.  Do you know how f**ked up that is?!?!  The other men on the call...I will give it to a couple.  They did try to back me up a little but when he went after them they shut up quick.  What sucks is my idea isn't bad.  It would be a win win for everyone if we can get it implemented.  The problem is it gets rid of a bunch of manual processes HE created.  Instead of being open minded he pitched a fit to make sure HIS WAY stayed in place, even if its antiquated.  

Also, come to find out a woman who quit two weeks ago found out she was paid $20,000 LESS than her male counterpart.  Same years of experience, same education, same track record for the most part.  But he was paid more and treated her like his own personal secretary even though they had the same job.  Then he had the nerve...THE NERVE to ask her for a reference because he thinks his time is limited.  Why you ask...well because after she left they realized she was doing everything and he is basically a sentient paperweight.  

Again,....

Then I was at an event with some friends and acquaintances.  Not too many people and not inside (COVID!!!).  Anyways, one of the ladies I don't know as well was leaving, kinda early.  When someone asked her why she was bugging out so soon she said she had to get home.  Okay I know for a fact all of her kids have already left for college so no kiddies but okay.  She said she needed to get home to cook dinner.  Okay......  I mean whatever we all have stuff we do but you never go out with everyone....

She reluctantly said well, her husband requires her to be home every night no later than 6:30 so she can cook him dinner.  If she goes out or works later, she still needs to be home to cook because "he gives her off on the weekends".  WHAT!!??!!?  She is a working woman.  Why does she have to leave an event to cook him dinner?!?!  He works from home.  I...WHAT IS HAPPENING?!!?  One of the guys jokingly said what happens if you don't cook M-F?  She said, it's not worth the fight, plus she does have off those two days.  

He is a grown @$$ man.  He can't cook dinner ONE week night so his wife can have a night out....?

"Listen, little girl"

It is never okay to say this, it is condescending and disrespectful.

I don't care who you are, what your position is, what your gender is, or where you work; if you call me "little girl" I am going to be angry.  I am of a smaller stature and look young but you do NOT know me, if I made you feel stupid that is NOT my problem.  I am beyond professional, if you feel dumb its because you have issues not me.

Story time 1:

Helping a client.  They are new and request something that is taboo but make it look like our stuff doesn't work right.  It is something that is NEVER recommended.  I respond back using it as a teaching opportunity.  I was not condescending, I was not trying to make them look bad.  They copied FIFTEEN people trying to make ME look bad, I  responded to everyone (because I know half of them) and I have nothing to hide.  I said my piece and gave my solution.

I got a response back just to me, "Listen, little girl.  You will not embarrass me in front of my bosses and employees.  You will treat me with respect.  You will not use me as an example."

Someone has a superiority complex...

I responded and cc'd the people he excluded.  "Hello ____, I am sorry you feel this way.  I was not targeting you.  I was not trying to embarrass you.  I was just informing you of how things are set up since you are newer to the position.  I treat all of my contacts with utmost respect, I only ask that they do the same for me.  Please do not call me 'Little Girl'.  I am a business professional with 17 years of experience in this field and am here to help you.  I meant no disrespect, my apologies." 

I will not let people get away with this $hit anymore.  You want to act like I am beneath you, then be an adult and copy everyone.  If you aren't man enough to have your bosses and FEMALE employees know how insecure you are, don't send it in writing.

Story time 2:

Buying a vehicle.  This one happened a little while ago.  Went with the sig other to get some info on a larger vehicle for him.  While looking at our trade in, the finance guy and sales guy insulted us ten times over because we refused to just accept their price.  Saying we will NEVER be able to afford said vehicle etc etc etc.  They also offered us way too little for the trade in, it was BS and they knew it.  We look young and they were clearly trying to take advantage/bully us into a sale.  The kicker, they wouldn't talk to me.  I would talk and they would only look and speak to my husband like I wasn't even there. The hubs would say something and look to me to agree/disagree/add input and they would ignore me,  f**k you very much! They wouldn't work with us but also wouldn't give us back our keys.  I finally stood up and said "Give me my car keys, now!"  The finance guy looked right at me and said "Sit down little girl, we are speaking to your husband".

My husband stood up and defended me.

I finally said "really.  that's nice.  the vehicle we are trading in, is in both our names.  the new vehicle will be in both our names.  We are married, if you want to make a deal, you want to talk to BOTH of us.  But I am done talking.  Give me my f**king keys or I am calling the police!".  I don't normally swear like that...I do it in jest but not in anger when I am trying to be the bigger person. 

We got our keys but no apologies.  We literally walked out with the sales guy laughing and talking loudly to other sales people saying something about people being embarrassed because they WEREN'T approved...

I retold my experience on BBB, Facebook, Twitter, and via a survey from their corporate office asking about our experience & when we might come back to complete the sale.  Again, not letting these tw@t waffles get away with this $hit anymore.  I saw I wasn't the 1st or even 20th person to complain.  Its not surprising the dealership bankrupted about 6 months later.  That is NOT how you do business.

Are you sure YOU aren't pregant?!?!

For F**ks sake people, quit being RUDE!  Two things you shouldn't do....

1. Talk about Religion/Politics at work
2. ASSUME a woman is pregnant

JFC that's how you get your teeth knocked out..from an angry...apparently "fat" woman with a mean right hook.  Except I am not a violent person (usually) so instead I flip the question around.


Person: *pssst* are you pregnant?
Me: *snort* nope
AT THIS POINT YOU SHOULD WALK AWAY!
Person: Are you sure?
Me: *confused* Um, yes...100%....
Person: Really?  You must be eat more and gain some weight...a little
Me: *PISSED OFF* Um, no....are YOU pregnant?
Person: *confused* No, I man?
Me: Are you sure? I mean last uniform order I had to go up two pants sizes for you....
Person: *REALLY confused* You look mad
Me: *calmly typing* If you don't want a can of Lysol shoved up your @$$, I highly recommend you leave...now. 

What the actual F**K?!?!  I know I am not a size 2 but screw you man.  Asking the 1st question fine...but when I said NO, you should probably leave it alone.  Oh and he is a f**king fat @$$...WHAT AN @$$HOLE!

Also, the "weight" I've gained is 90% muscle.  I've been working out, running, dancing, swimming, etc.  So I noticed a change also but its more what happens before all the "fat" goes away.  You know when you 1st start working out again and you don't I dunno...its weird.  See below...yea that's me...I am a f**king whale...just call me baby beluga...

And no, I'm NOT sucking in...

Why do I need to know who died in North Carolina...EVERYDAY?!?!

Soooooooooooooooooooo I started getting Obituary Notices for parts of North Carolina.  I guess this is another one of my lovely "subscriptions".  I was very shocked to find out C. Edwin Berry passed away.  I don't know who that is but I am sure he will be missed. 

I Unsubscribed but I already had like 15 so this should be fun...

I don't care where you are from, you will not speak to me or anyone else like that

I know people come from different cultures, different backgrounds, different countries.  Our country is a hodgepodge of so many different kinds of people.  I myself have friends who are originally from the Middle East, United Kingdom, Central America, South America, Greece, Japan, and a few other places.  My point is when you are brought up in other places and move to a new place sometimes there is a culture shock...a time where you have to adjust and that's fine. 

My problem stems from people who have no respect for other human beings...especially women.  I know there are countries...cultures out there where women are thought to be below men.  They have no rights, they have no say, they are objects to be owned.  I don't like it but I know it exists.  BUT if you move yourself to a country where women have rights, you CANNOT treat them like you did back home.  You can't own them, you can't control them, you can't treat them however you feel.  You are in a new place, respect our culture.  And I am not being an @$$hat about immigrants (legal or illegal), I know very well there are full bred American men who treat women like dirt but it is frowned upon...usually. 

Where is this coming from.  Weeeeeeeeeeeelll I may have been on the phone with a vendor, calling on behalf of my client.  My client was billed incorrectly and I was calling to get it fixed for them.  The following conversation occurred.  It was 100% awful.  I almost can't even believe it happened.  And no it is not exaggerated, I wrote down most of what was said because I have to report it....... 

Man:  *in a thick accent* Hello, thank you for calling _______.
Me: Hi, I'm NOLAGurl with ______, calling on behalf of Department of _______, may I speak to a manager?
*silence*
Woman: Hello?
Me:  *I explain who I am and why I am calling*
Woman: Oh sugar, this isn't my business, I just work here.  You need to talk to the owner.  Hold on.
Me: K...
Man: WHAT!?!
Me: *slight pause* Hi again...who am I speaking to?
Man: F**K you, why you call me and no know my name?!?!?  You no know me why you call me.
Me: *taken aback* Sir, I am just trying to verify who I am speaking with
Man: You shut your stupid face
Me: *thinking* what the f**k is happening *said* Sir, I am with _____ I am calling on behalf of my client, Depart.....
Man: *cutting me off* You have no right to call me!  I have my papers, you have no right!  You...f**k you and your mother.  Don't call me again!!!!!!!!!
Me: *getting mad* *staying calm* Sir, I am just calling to fix...
Man: Shut up, just shut your f**king face. 
Me: Sir, you are not going to speak to me like that
Man: You have no right!  I lost my wife.  It is your fault!  She did the insurance it is right!  What you do now?  I lost her!!!  She isn't here why you call me!??!
Me: *as calm as possible* Sir, I think you have me confused with...
Man: Don't f**king tell me anything!  You shut your stupid face!
*silence* *heavy breathing*
Me: Sir, I am sorry about your wife but that is not why I am calling.  I am not trying to sell you anything or get anything from you.  
*he starts yelling again in another language*
Me: *talking over him* My customer went to your store, you billed them incorrectly and I need to fix it.
Man: F**k you and your lies.  It isn't about the insurance, I have my papers, I did it all right.
Me:  I am not calling from the State, I am calling from _____________ to fix an error...
Man:  You fix nothing!  I did everything right!  I have my papers!  You never call me again! Not like this!  She is gone and you have the *word I don't know* to call me.  Call me now?!?!  When I lost her!  Do you understand you *another incoherent word* b**ch.
*woman in background saying I don't think that's why she is calling*
Man: *to his employee* You shut your stupid face!
Me: *still shocked a bit* I will say this one more time.  You will not speak to me that way.  
Man: I will speak to you and your c**t in way I want!!!!!!!
Me:  *final straw, deep breath* Okay, if that is how you feel.  If you do not want to help me help you I will direct my customer...all my customers to no longer use you business for their needs. 
*yelling again*
Me: *Talking over him* If you insist on not fixing this error I cannot in good faith send my clients back to your business.  Have a nice day.
*yelling things I wont type*
Me: *click*

Now you tell me what I could have possibly done different besides hanging up sooner.  I was nice, I was calm, I was professional.  He was mean, hateful, threatening.  I do not allow people to speak to me in that manner but I was trying to be a good little worker and get him understand who I was.  To me it sounds like he is in trouble with the government and thought I was calling to...I have no idea.  I was literally calling about billing error that was under $2.00.  It may seem like nothing but I have to get it fixed...

Because f**k you, that's why

I'm not really as angry as that title seems, just more flabbergasted by people and their inability to realize when they should shut the f**k up.  I've said it before and I'll say it again if you have already asked a woman if/when she wants kids and she says eventually *smile*...DROP IT.  Don't keep asking every time you see her, IN FRONT of everyone.  Don't randomly respond to a cute pic of her and her (insert lil one) asking when she is gonna have one.  Don't remind her every time you see her that she is getting older.  Just f**king stop!

1.  Not everyone wants kids.  It is not required for married (or unmarried) persons to reproduce.
2.  Not everyone CAN have kids. 
3.  It is not your right to know WHY I don't have kids
4.  If you ask me repeatedly I am eventually going to give you an asinine answer
5.  Don't be offended if I respond to your rudeness with rudeness
6.  Oh yea and its not okay to shove a child in my arms and say "doesn't that feel right" because that increases your chances of being throat punched ten fold

I love my littles but geez!  It comes in spurts.  I wont hear a peep from anyone about my childless marriage *rolls eyes* and then suddenly everyone wants to know when there will be a little NOLA Gurl/Guy walking around.  Okay, new people asking, I don't care.  People who have asked repeatedly and KNOW that I've had some issues shut the f**k up!  You don't seem concerned, you are badgering me and my husband.   Someone being concerned says quietly (as in out of group conversation) "so, anything? *concerned eyes* (not pity, there is a difference)". I say no *shrug*, they say okay just checking.  That, that is OKAY.  Standing in a group of people (half of whom I do NOT know well) and LOUDLY saying, "so you knocked up yet?" makes me want to go on a murder spree. 

So since I am a tad moodier than usual (I hate being a girl :P) my responses may not have been nearly as polite as they usually are.  So now instead of letting morons make me feel bad or embarrassed about my "issues", I'm gonna embarrass them.

To that lovely person that KNOWS what I've been through who confronted me in a large group, my response was spot on.  I said "Um no, I am apparently defective.  Remember? *sips champagne*".  It seems, being confronted with harsh reality makes people uncomfortable.  You asked, I responded.  You can't deal with blunt truth, stop asking brazen questions.  What I've learned is that if you make them uncomfortable, they stop asking you questions that make you uncomfortable (usually) AND they don't offer the canned bull$hit "aw, honey it will happen" or "God will (insert miracle)" or "You know when we were trying to have (insert kids name), *goes into LONG story about conception that no one needs to know*".  I wasn't asking for support or advice...you asked me, I answered...that should be the end of it.  When you get real, they usually shut up and walk away.  If I would have brought it up, TOTALLY different.

Like I said, I don't care if people inquire, I'm not a heartless person.  I care if people are @$$e$ about it.  I am just tired of all the crap.  There are ways to ask me what's going on without making me feel second-rate or the center of UNWANTED attention (and pity...I hate the pity stares...I am fine people... really). 

So that's my story.  From now on @$$hole questions, get @$$hole answers.  And no, we don't know for sure what's up with us BUT that still isn't a reason for people to think it is okay to bombard me with VERY personal questions in a crowd or on FB.  We are fine.  I am not freaking out or depressed or anything actually.  If $hit don't happen, it don't happen.  End of story.  But when people start making a big deal about it, I start feeling inferior...bad about myself...less of a woman....something MUST be wrong with me...its really sucky man.  Anyway, if you want to know what's going on, ask me in private and don't post $hit on my Social Media, rude! 

Stop being an @$$hole *drops mic*

This is a RANT, I just have to get this out before I explode....you have been warned.

No but really, I don't understand the need to be a prick just for the sake of being a prick.  I get that we all have bad days but lately I have been witness to ADULTS treating children, their adult kids, other adults, etc poorly and then blaming it on something else (that happened a LOOOONG time ago).  What is sad...this is more than one adult.  Having one do any of this is bad enough but I've been exposed to THREE!

I try to remove myself from drama, its why I live 30+ min away from everyone.  I could move closer but every time I consider it, BS like this happens and I am like, I don't need this crap.  As much as I try to be drama free I get sucked into it from time to time.  The difference between myself and others that were sucked in is I am going to give you options on how to fix it.  If you have been b**ching about the SAME THING for the last 'x' number of years I am going to get real with you and tell you it is time to STOP!  If you are using something that happened more than 5 minutes ago as an excuse to be a twat to everyone, I am going to loud cap you next time you say something in front of me.  Not because I am an @$$hole...because I am going to protect the people I care about from your toxic behavior since I have now been dragged into this nonsense.  But you won't say that in front of me because you only ever do this in small groups and I am never "alone" with you.  You are a coward...you attack women when no one else is around to defend them or hear how f**ked up you actually are. 

Let me reiterate that I hate when people take out their aggressions on others.  I am sorry that your life went to $hit but 99% of the time the person you are ripping apart had nothing to do with that and you are just pouring your anger into them because they are there.  NOT COOL!  Ever!  If it happens once, I will forgive it but if it happens repeatedly with the same person(s), you my dear are a bully and I have lost respect for you.  When my little one calls me crying because you verbally abused them, I see red and sorry but once that happens it will be very hard for me to forget.  I am the type that I take $hit up until a point but once I am past it, I am done.  So let me say that if a person knows certain things bother one of my littles and they continue to use those things to purposefully hurt them, I am going to expose their shenanigans to everyone.  Using the 'n' word and the 'f' word (not f**k) to describe anyone is 100% NEVER acceptable.  And if those words make someone uncomfortable you do not have the right to call them a 'n' lover or 'f' hag.  WTF is wrong with you?!?!?!  That is bigotry at its finest.  "If you don't look like me or think like me, you are not as good as me." It is 2015 STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On another note...just because you have a d**k doesn't mean you are better than me (a person sans d**k).  It drives me spare when "men" dismiss me or my littles because we are women.  My "littles" are adults, just younger than myself, FYI. And when I hear about one of our trusted "men" trying to control them or belittle them, I want to punch things.  Mainly things between their legs because god I just want to cause them pain at this point (I know, I know bad but I wont actually do it because I am a sane individual).  It kills me further when other "adults" (including other females!!!) feed these men's aggression by agreeing with them and ostracizing myself and my littles based on what a twat booger said.  Group think at its finest.  This is where I come in.  This is where we have a "come to Jesus" talk because I am 1000% done with this bull$hit.  Abuse is not just physical hands on a person.  It is verbal, mental, emotional.  If you purposefully cause HARM to another person just for the f**k of it, that is abuse!

It is not okay to call me or anyone else "names" like c**t, etc because we don't agree with you.  So a woman hurt you (and in a couple of these cases, she did, I get that, she was a royal B) BUT that does NOT give you free reign to attack all females around you.  Also, it happened years ago.  It is time to move on.  You can't blame your anger towards us on that anymore.  You have had more than a decade (in some cases THREE decades) to fix this, yet we still hear the same broken record excuse every time, "You can't get mad at him.  Think of what he's been through." NO!  I don't f**king care anymore.  Just because they had a bad run a few years ago doesn't give them the right to flip out on other people or try to control them.  You don't get to tell me (or anyone else) what to do or how to feel, sorry (not sorry). If you want to wallow in angry self pity fine but leave us out of it!

The "definition" of crazy is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different outcome.  If someone TRULY wanted to move passed all this nonsense they would have done it by now.  This extended DRAMA is 100% their own creation and I do NOT feel sorry for them anymore.  How do you live like that?!?!  It can't be good for you to harbor so much anger and aggression for THAT long.  I feel sorry for (empathize with) people of course but you have to fix things for yourself.  YOU have to break the cycle.  If you don't it just keeps happening over and over and over.

I guess some people feed off of drama.  They thrive on it.  I despise it. If I have a problem, I fix it, if I can't fix it, I stop b**ching about it until I can fix it.  It does me no good to dwell on things that are out of my control and I sure as hell wont continually attack someone else because my life is in the $hitter.

And yes I would say this and have said some of this face to face.

Rant Over.

Side Note: If you threaten my fur babies I will become defensive...you do NOT threaten them...EVER...if you hurt my fur babies...I can't express what will happen to you but it won't be pleasant.  It might involve paper cuts, salt, and lemon juice. 

What the heck did I do now?!? Nothing, I did nothing...in case you were wondering :P

I love being on the receiving end of someone else's bad day.  Yes, I know we all have them.  Yes, I know we are all human but don't forget... just because you are having a craptastic day doesn't mean you have to make everyone else's day craptastic as well. 

I always try to put on a happy face.  And even if I can't, I attempt to remember that the cashier at the grocery, the rep on the phone, my husband, etc. more than likely didn't do "it".  They didn't do anything wrong so I shouldn't take out my frustrations on them just because they happen to be in my vicinity.

$hit happens...emails don't go through, things fall through the cracks...people don't want to do their jobs...if these things happen to you it SUCKS big donkey d but it doesn't mean you have to be a tornado of rage and bring everyone else down with you.  I hate it when I am having a wonderful (or even just a decent) day and someone absolutely rips me apart FOR NO REASON except I happened to answer the phone/email/text.  It blows my mind!  I think it is because I am so conscientious of everyone else's feelings now that I am taken aback when others don't reciprocate that same conscientiousness. 

I guess, I think, you don't know what is happening in their day.  What if you lash out at someone who is already in a downward spiral and they lose hope?  They are teetering on the edge and you don't just nudge them over, you DESTROY them, all because you are having a craptastic day.  Your unnecessary venom could affect them much more than you realize.  Plus, your problems that seem like the end of the world to you could be so trivial compared to what someone else is mentally going through yet they may keep their's hidden behind a small smile. 

So you have an issue but you haven't addressed it with the company you have an issue with.  While I know I sometimes have a tendency to be sarcastic, I will normally not go that route initially, depending on what I am told.  I will first tell you "take a breath and call them to see what you can do, it is probably an easy fix." THAT is a nice thing.  THAT is me trying to neutralize the anger.  THAT is me trying to f**king help!  I honestly would not expect to get a "f**k you too, b**ch!" back in response.  I am not sure why I deserved that but okay.  I don't respond to that; I won't respond to that.  THAT is a person trying to start a fight with you because they are mad at someone else.  So I stayed quiet.  That should have been the end of it.  A mentally STABLE person would have realized they overreacted and stopped texting or apologized.  Nope, not in my case.  I received at least 4 more texts detailing why I am a horrible person for not supporting them in their anger at x-company.  WTF?!? I am not one to throw guilt usually but I will make you feel like an @$$ if you push me too far.  After I received a text stating I was a coward for not saying anything, I finally had enough of the "verbal" abuse and replied. "I am sorry if  I am not as chatty as usual, you see I am not exactly having the greatest day either.  I just found out my old dog is dying of bone cancer.  But in relation to our previous exchange about your life altering problem, I still think you should call x-company and ask for some assistance." *crickets*

Not my proudest moment but I got my point across.  Yea your day sucks and yea you took it out on me and yea you had no idea what I was dealing with but that doesn't make it okay.  You didn't stop at one attack.  You continued to use me as a punching bag just because you thought you could, because I am family and that's what I am here for...I guess.  People laugh at me when I say I had a "f**ked up childhood" because they only see my family when they are "normal" or in other words, behaving because others are watching.  I am not kidding, you try having an immediate family that can snap in a split second.  Never knowing if what you say is going to trigger some bat$hit crazy response.  I am a firm believer in "family don't end with blood" because I can say with 100% confidence most of my "family" has zero genetic relation to me. 

When you get to a certain age, the bitterness fairy descends upon you and makes you a horrible person!

That may sound mean and generalizing but lately it seems true.  Or maybe my family/extended family are a bunch of @$$holes that once we turn 60, feel the need to unleash the bottled up fury on unsuspecting persons. 

And by unsuspecting persons I mean me.  Now most of it wasn't directed at me so to say but the things I was told made me cringe.  Examples below (there was so much more but I wont bore you).

Old Person:, knows fully well I am working out, trying to lose some inches.  They say "Oh you've gained weight.  I mean look at your calves, they are at least twice the size they used to be.  Won't working out just make them bigger?  They shouldn't get bigger, then you'd look like a dyke"
Me: *stunned stare* A...a...a what?  That's not very nice and a wildly inappropriate term and no they are not twice their size nor will they get "bigger" *geesh*

Old Person: That "woman" *said with utter disdain* steals his money.  She's a golddigger, she NEVER wanted anything more than his money.  She came from nothing and leeches off of him.
Me: *developing a migraine* Are you sure?  I don't think that is accurate...they've been married for 20+ years and I distinctly remember her having a job and owning a home BEFORE...she was pretty independent. 
Old Person: You are so naive
Me: *screaming in my head* Wow...

Old Person: *speaking of my grandma from the other side of the family* Gertie would never allow that. She tried to control everything.
Me: Huh, you mean Gammie?  My grandmother?
Old Person: I KNOW your grandmother, her name is Gertie not Gammie. 
Me: What are you going on about?  I call her Gammie....
Old Person:  I coulda punched her in the face the first time we met *goes into a more than likely 
UNTRUE telling of a story I've never heard*
Me: Oh for the love of...That was before I was born...I am over 30...why does that even matter?
Old Person:  Because you speak highly of them and they are dirt
Me: *shaking with frustration* Woooooooooooooow....

Me: Look at this adorable picture of Uncle so and so's grand niece!
Old Person: Oh is that "HER" niece's daughter?
Me: Yes...
Old Person:  She's not very pretty
Me: That's ludicrous, she's gorgeous (and she's 6)
Old Person:  No, she isn't.  She is homely...ugly even
Me: That is an awful thing to say about a child!
Old Person:  She's not my family, doesn't matter
Me: *beating head on table* 

Old Person: Her husband is an alcoholic and has a gambling problem
Me: What? *getting concerned*  No he doesn't she would have told me if something was wrong.
Old Person:  He does.  He spends all their money and leaves nothing for her and the kids
Me: He works TWO jobs, that doesn't make any sense and he LOVES his kids AND wife
Old Person: He's not good enough for her.  He's a bad provider, you are so naive
Me: *jfc* Please don't spread that rumor...I don't think ANY of that is true.

Old Person:  Who was at the holiday dinner?
Me: Oh, the usual suspects.  Me, hubs, my brothers, their wives and kids.
Old Person: Step
Me: Huh? 
Old Person:  They are NOT your brothers.
Me: Um, yes they are
Old Person:  You have no relation to them except your father is married to THAT woman.
Me: *losing my cool* OMG! Look, "family don't end with blood", alright...and they've been married for almost 25 years!!!!

I just hate the anger, the rudeness, the BITTERNESS!  You have got to let some things go!  Just shoot me if I ever go down this path.  This is NO WAY to live.  Who wants to be in their golden years and absolutely HATE everyone.  Who the f**k holds onto grudges for over 20 years...30 years in some cases.  That CANNOT be good for your metal state.   Also, don't sit there and claim to be all religious.  You are NOT living like God taught us or whatever.  You covet your "neighbors" belongings, you hate everyone, you LIE all the time...you are NOT a good person, you are toxic and you just justified why I rarely visit!

Will I go back...yes, I have to because family and whatnot...do I want to...not really....will it be often...nope.

On a completely unrelated note - One of these persons is also a borderline hoarder...I swear I break out in hives every time I visit.  Who the f**k needs 8 boxes of creamer and 6 cases of cereal???  And no its not for a huge family...TWO PEOPLE...TWO!

Opinions are like @$$holes...

...everybody's got one but you shouldn't share it with everyone.

Sorry but while I do agree that everyone has one, I do not agree that you should try to force yours on others.  Not everyone thinks the same...not everyone has the same plan.  What works for me, may not work for you.  That doesn't mean mine is wrong! 

Point being if someone gets a dog you have ZERO right to criticize them.  It is their decision.  And just for the record, it does not change them wanting to have children!!!! How the flipping f**k does that even make sense in your head!?!?!  "Oh you got a puppy...looks like no kids for you." Seriously?!?!? Go suck on a lemon!

I swear if I hear "now you have THREE big dogs but aren't you trying to have kids" one more time I may go postal.  Yes, good observation...THREE...yay, you can count...here's a cookie.  And yes I want a child (may not be possible but that's a whole other issue)...why are these things mutually exclusive???  Can I not have a baby AND have dogs???  Is there some dictation from God saying you can't have a baby as long as you have fur babies???  I didn't get that memo from the Almighty.  Maybe that's why we can't get preggo...damn divine mail service losing my important notices *rolling eyes*. 

I just..it's bad enough there is nothing medically wrong with us and no boo boo...I don't need you getting on my case because I got a bleeping dog.  Be nice to me or I will train his little @$$ to pee on you!!! Just stahp!  If you don't want dogs (cats) in your house, fine but it is MY house.  I pay for it.  I can have a zoo if I want!!! If you don't like it, don't come over!  Oh wait you don't come over anyway because we live outside of your "comfort zone".  Newsflash, living 20 min down I-10 is not that freaking far!!!!! Okay fine, add in traffic and it can be 30 min, whatever!  Other peeps come visit and they live over an hour away!!!  BUT if you are going to be a jerk about my fur babies you can stay home.  It is their home, not yours. 

Also,  dogs + a child (if that happens) does not mean the child will be in danger.  Honestly based on recent observations God help anyone that tries to harm me, my husband or my non-existent kid(s).  They won't have time to scream before two dogs and two cast rip them to shreds while the old man gases them into unconsciousness with his breath.

In other news just because one person has a "bad" experience with a specific breed being destructive doesn't mean mine will be.  We don't even know what he is for certain.  If he is a little jerk we will deal with it, it is called TRAINING, but I am not going to refuse a fur baby because he is of a certain breed.  That is racist...except with dog breeds...that is breedist!!!!

I just feel so attacked lately.  It is like I can't do anything right.  Except there is no right or wrong just someone's opinion on what they think is right for me.  Animals make me happy, buzz off!

UPDATE: OMG perfect timing.  Person called and gave me an earful about the stresses of having kids....my response "I already have kids.  They just happen to have fur and pee outside."

"I know it hurt, but he/she means well."

This is one of the stupidest justification for someones actions!  I've used this excuse before to justify the actions of ex-boyfriends, friends, family, co-workers, etc.  We all have.  It's the "they don't mean to be an asshole, that's just how they are" in a different form.  It is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo lame!  This is not an excuse.  If you mean well then don't be a jerk!  You should know by the time you are in High School (if not way sooner) what the difference is between right and wrong.  You should be able to, on some level, know that some topics are off limits.  Or at least what the limits are.  No one is that oblivious to body language. Have some tact people!  Look we all say stupid things sometimes but I've noticed more people feel the need to voice their stupid all the time instead of occasionally.

Yes, I understand that some need to be treated harshly to get them back to reality but sometimes I want to slap people for being utterly insensitive.  You can be a supportive friend/family member/whatever and not come off as a complete douche nozzle.

Examples:
A)  You know someone trying to have babies who hasn't been successful.  Unless you know for a FACT, I'm talking 100% positive, that they will be comforted by religious shit (sorry but sometimes it is shit), I do not recommend sending them anything.  Because I can almost guarantee the "Don't worry God has a plan" email will make some struggling women lose their cool.  Yea you "mean well" but if they aren't outright asking for that kind of support you aren't helping. If anything you just created a blubbering mess that others (like their husbands or best friends) are going to have to mop up.  And don't give me the "they mean well crap".  If you mean well then be supportive, quit reminding them that God hasn't blessed them with a boo boo through electronic prayer.  That kind of comfort is a trigger, you don't need to pull it.  If you want to pray for them, then pray for them.  Prayers don't need an audience to be answered. 

B) You know someone trying to lose weight.  Stop, just effing stop.  If they do not bring up the subject, keep your pie hole shut.  Saying "you look great" is one thing, that's nice.  But doing the over the top "Oh my GOD, look at you!  You're like a totally different person." And then proceeding to bring it up to everyone you see in front of said person, saying "don't they look great, you must have lost so much weight!".  You aren't being nice...yea they may look great but you are calling attention to them by going overboard. It's embarrassing and makes everyone uncomfortable. 

B1) Also, unless said persons ask for weight loss advice or healthy eating advice don't give it.  If someone says "OMG, I need to work out" that is not an opening for you to say anything, unless it is "OMG me too" or "why?  You look fine to me *shrug*".  Now if they say, "hey I need to work out...have any suggestions?" Feel free, that is an opening. 

C)  "Have you thought of NOT dying your hair?  You know it causes damage. *picks up a piece with two fingers like it has the plague*" Um, have you thought of not being a twat booger?  What's it to you if someone does or does not dye their hair???  What does someone else's physical appearance have to do with your happiness?  Maybe dying their hair makes them feel better about themselves!  Why do YOU feel the need to make a big deal about it.  You don't mean well, you aren't looking out for their well being, you are being an asshat.  I don't care if they dyed their hair purple...it is their hair, bugger off!

D)  "You have to buy an SUV!  If you want kids you can't drive them around in a *gasp* car!!!!!  Do you want your baby to die???" What on Earth are you smoking???  That is mean, hurtful and just dumb.  Of course I don't want my nonexistent kids to die.  But my "little bitty" car has a better safety rating then your over sized gas guzzler.  The reason my car is "more dangerous" isn't because of my car at all.  It is because idiots like you who buy giant vehicles and don't know how to operate them, therefore putting the rest of us in danger.  I am not over extending myself because people like you don't know how to drive.  Shut up!  You don't mean well, you are an idiot.  If you want safer roads, start with yourself.  If you want an SUV, good on you, learn how to drive it.  My BFF has a ginormous SUV thing but I am cool with it because she knows how to drive it and park it!

Here is a bit of advice.  Everyone is entitled to an opinion but unless someone asks for it keep it to yourself.  Otherwise you are intentionally hurting someone.  There is no excuse for it, you are being hurtful just to be hurtful even if you try to justify it with "but I mean well".

NOTE: 

Obviously this does not apply to someone who is endangering themselves.  I guess for instance the hair dye comment is totally acceptable if it is causing physical harm to said person.  But as said before, there are better ways to bring it up.  Don't be an asshat!

What is wrong with people?!?!

Isn't it illegal to mess with someones mail?!?!  Regardless if it is a piece of junk, if it isn't addressed to you, you probably shouldn't touch it.  I know we all get junk mail for people that previously lived in our homes and we toss it, whatever.  But if it looks important I ALWAYS write "Return to Sender" with an arrow to the person's name saying "no longer lives here" or "wrong address".

Ok that is my remedy for misplaced mail.  My real rant is about messing with someone else's mail...like from their mailbox!  I am so over people thinking its okay to "check out" what other people have in their mailbox.  I've caught teens looking in my neighbors mail boxes, stopping when they saw me out front.  I called the police and let them know what I saw and they sent out extra patrols to the area.  Not long after that I had someone take a UPS delivery from under my carport.  Like signed for it and everything! So I started having all shipped packages sent to my office.

Well now what do I do with mailed items???  Do I pay for a PO Box???  That's bullshit!  Why do I have to do that?!?!  Why can't people keep their grubby fingers off my mail?!?!!?  It's amazing!  I get everything at my address.  I've NEVER had "undeliverable" issues but lately, lately certain things keep coming up as "undeliverable as addressed".  Not everything...that's the key!  Its the same sender, some things get to me and some don't.  Things sent in unmarked boxes make it to me just fine.  You know a plain brown box or envelope.  But other things have the product inside marked on the box.  So they say what type of product is inside.  These NEVER MAKE IT TO ME.  All of them say "undeliverable as addressed" when I look up the tracking number.  I only know what the box looks like because I can go to the website and see other users pics of their deliveries.

So you tell me who is taking my stuff???  How can the same company address somethings correctly and others incorrectly???  It makes no sense.  There is no full "return" address, its a shipping warehouse, so it's not going back to the sender...how convenient :P.

So not to sound paranoid but is my mail person stealing my stuff???  I know that's a harsh accusation but I can't figure out any other reason.  If it was delivered and I just never got it, then clearly someone else took it but these always say "undeliverable as addressed".  Its suspect, that's all I am saying.

So heres my thought...STOP STEALING OTHER PEOPLE'S STUFF!!!  I work my ass off to have what I have, I am part of programs and get things for free because I give my honest opinion of said products, you can easily do the same.  Stop taking my things, you are a jerk! I was home the day the thing said "undeliverable".  I got mail that day!!! So why in the world would that one thing not be delivered?!!?!?!?!?

What is happening?!?!?!

When did we start regressing so quickly???  I feel like society woke up one day and decided it is somewhere around 1950 and women are absolutely inferior, stupid and only there to "please" their man and have babies. 

I just don't get it.  I know there will always (unfortunately) be sexist pigheaded types.  And I know some don't mean anything by what they say, it is just ignorance.  As in they say something but mean no offense by it.  But lately I have witnessed and been exposed to near 100% male chauvinism. 

A compilation of things I've overheard or been told by MEN in the last few months:

"Women are waiting until well past 30 to have kids now.  That is way too late.  They need to get their priorities straight.  A job ain't nothing for them, let the MAN earn his money and you get them babies birthed before them eggs dry up." 

Um, I am sorry what?!? 

"Sugar don't worry your pretty face the men will handle the numbers."

Seriously????

"It's good to know you do your wifely duty and take care of the home."

F**k you dude!  I cook because I like it and clean because it has to be done, plus my husband helps and did I mention I work 40+ hours a week.  Wifely duties, suck it asshole.

"Women just aren't as good with numbers.  You have to really focus to understand them."

Betcha I understand numbers better than you do! 

"She's a girl! She shouldn't want to climb fences, play outside or get dirty."

She can kick your ass and that scares you doesn't it.

"He's a boy! Playing dress up with his sister will make him gay"

Oh honey, that is not how that works.  If he likes boys nothing you do or do not expose him to is going to change that.

"You shouldn't eat that *points at something fried*, you should eat that *points at something healthier*."

If someone told me that I'd punch them, just saying.

"I like your pigtails, they are like two little straps to hang on to."

*jaw drop* In what world is that ever an appropriate thing to say unless it is in the bedroom between significant others!

"When I get married my wife is going to wear lingerie to bed every night. If she wants to eat."

Ahhhhahahahaha, yea good luck with that *face palm*

"She shouldn't go to *insert big name university* for nursing.  She needs to understand science and math are hard and I don't want her to get discouraged."

WTF is wrong with you?!?!  She can do anything she wants to! Do NOT discourage her because YOU think Math and Science will be too hard.  Argh!!! I can tell you first hand how this will eff a girl up!  I was told something similar when I was in college.  I was practically brainwashed into changing my major from NURSING to business because it was "less science" and I AM GOOD AT SCIENCE.  Look I love what I do most of the time but I can't help but think of how my life would have gone if I just did nursing and told all them peeps to screw off.   Granted I didn't get an undergrad in business.  I changed it sort of at the last minute, I guess I had to rebel a little, ha!

I know there were more but these are the only ones I wrote down because...just wow!

I am totally a time traveler

That is the only explanation.  I have somehow been zapped back into the dark ages.  Or maybe the early 1900's.  Or maybe I am in a totally different universe, as in Game of Thrones.  You know where is is acceptable for men to think they can control women! Even in Game of Thrones they are trying to break that habit (hello, Asha...Cersi...Arya...)!

But alas it is 2014 and I want to punch someone so bad I am shaking!  I wont go into complete details but there was drama.  I mean all out stupid "on Wednesdays we wear pink " type drama (as in High School).  Yet we aren't in High School, much less the movie mean girls so why all the drama?!?!? 

I'll tell you why.  Because someone who happens to have a penis thinks he can tell the rest of us (who don't have that appendage) what we can and cannot do.  And this isn't a boss-man.  A boss-man has the right to BOSS you around some (he signs your paycheck).  No this person isn't any of our bosses, he's not a policeman or anything like that, he just happens to share our bloodline.  Seriously, why should anyone care who I (we) talk to...family is family...why should I not speak to someone because you have a beef with, not them, but their "other" family. So because of that we cannot associate with our family.  I, just...what?! 

Listen up you Lannister wanna be.  You ain't my daddy and you ain't my husband (which in GoT could be one in the same) and even if you were I still wouldn't listen.  You know why?  Because I am a grown ass woman and there is no flipping way I am going to let you tell me (or the other females) what I can and cannot do.  And if I ever here you say "*she* should have known her place" in front of me, holding back a slap will be very difficult.  Granted this phrase wasn't directed at me but another female and I wasn't there when it was said.  But who says that???  That is like the ultimate verbal slap to any female.  It almost as bad as "shhh, the men are talking" or "why don't you go fix me a sandwich".  Ya know what F you, you F-ing, F-er!  I don't care if we are related you will not speak to anyone like that! 

And be glad this isn't GoT, because if it was your ass would have been poisoned by now or shot with an arrow while on the loo by the son you don't really claim. 

Having peen does not give you privileges.  Having no peen does not take away my rights.  Basically being male/female/undecided does not mean others have to bend to your will.  We are all human get over yourself! 

Ugh, I cannot believe this even happened.  The nerve!

Ya know what ELSE grinds my gears?!?!?

My other grinder is still people but not about detail just about oh I dunno having a filter!  Are manners no longer taught?!?!?  My momma always taught me if I would be insulted by whatever I am thinking then I should keep it to myself because the person I am thinking it about will probably be upset by it as well.  As in "if you can't say something nice, say NOTHING!".  It is wonderful advice, people really should live by this.  I am mean don't be unnecessarily rude to people, they probably already know ______ about themselves.  You pointing it out is not helping.  So what happened you may wonder.  Well you see as I've stated before I don't wear make-up daily and when I do it is not much.  I had many appointments the other day so I was dressed up (with make-up) and an associate of mine said something about me looking very pretty (aw, gee thanks).  Since that day I've worn almost no makeup.  Every single day since that day he has said "what the matter, you tired?" With a concerned look.  Huh??? I can be chipper and bright and smiling and happy and he says "you no look happy, maybe go home, get sleep." WTF dude?!?  The is not nice.  I might not look like a Disney Princess everyday but I don't look like death either, thank you very much!  I've been informed by others that they wish they could not wear makeup like I do.  I have a natural coloring so I don't look pale or sickly.  I usually wear a tinted SPF lotion on my face and lip gloss or Chapstick but that is it.  I made a comment about this in front of a few men and a few women.  The women were like WTF, rude and the men were like well you do look better with make-up.  EXCUSE ME?!?  Yes of course I do!  Everyone (including MEN) looks better with make-up!  But ya know what assholes, the day you have to spend over an hour covering every blemish/mole/wrinkle/whatever and ironing your hair so you can look "pretty" for a bunch of uncultured swine is the day I might consider wearing make-up more often.  I dress nicely, I don't look like a homeless person, what is the problem?  Of course they are like, if you are so comfortable then why wear make-up for clients.  You know why!!!  Because that was the effing agreement I made 10 years ago when the older ass that used to work here made a HUGE deal about me not wearing makeup EVER.  He said it was unprofessional, that is right UNPROFESSIONAL, to go on appointments with out makeup.  Um I fixed my hair, I wore nice clothes...NOT ONE person complained but him.  So my compromise (because I am an adult and know what that is) was OK fine, I'll wear it on appointments but other than that bite me.  And so that is where we are today. Oh yea and wearing makeup is not in the handbook.  All it says is DRESS professionally, which I do. 

I just, that is rude...right?!?  Women do NOT have to wear makeup.  Many choose to do it and that is fine but it is not a requirement.  It's not like I am going topless or dressed in rags!!!  God forbid I show some leg/collarbone AND don't wear make-up....oh the unprofessionalism!  Gosh I am such a harlot...just sew the scarlet letter on me now.  I feel like the expectation that I MUST wear something that I do not feel comfortable in just to be viewed as "pretty" is so antiquated.  I know I am attractive without makeup..if I wasn't people wouldn't hit on me at the grocery when I am in 'rags', no make-up and my hair isn't brushed properly. I look just fine without it, I look just fine with it...it should be my choice whether or not I wear it.  I should not have to concern myself with the ideas that you may not find me as PROFESSIONAL because I choose to keep the make-up to a minimum. 

My point is me "dressing up" isn't so that people will say "oh you look pretty today".  Just like me NOT dressing up doesn't mean you can tell me I look like crap.  If you want to tell me I look nice fine, whatever but please by all means keep the "you look like shit" comments to yourself.  I don't need either.  Just treat me like you always should, kindly!

Side Note - If they update the handbook to say "must wear make-up" I may lose my shit

Ya know what grinds my gears?!?!

People!  People in general make me want to drive pencils through my eyes and ears so I don't have to see or hear them ANYMORE!

Simple directions are lost on so many.  Its like their lives are so mundane they feel like the simplest tasks need to be made more difficult because truly something that simple can't be right.  WRONG!!! You are so freaking WRONG.  It is that simple, I made it simple, because you have shown me YOU are in fact simple.  Now it is complicated and even my clearly superior brain can't figure out what the eff you did so don't call here and ask me what you did because I have no idea!  I don't know why I even try sometimes.  I've been told I have the patience of a Saint but after dealing with non thinkers over the years my patience is wearing thin.  I don't fancy myself a genius but I clearly have a better eye for detail and logic than those I deal with regularly.  The mantra is work SMARTER not HARDER but the smarter I work the harder others try to make my life difficult.  Seriously my head is going to explode.  Ya know why?  Because I have to deal with the fallout.  I may not have caused the most royal mess up to date but I am going to have to deal with it and that is why at the moment I have tunnel vision and feel like I am going to be sick.  

Maybe I should rename my blog, "some people make me feel stabby"

Or start a new one dedicated to the assholes I encounter/hear about on a regular basis.  Its not that everyone I know or run into are jerks, it is just that I keep seeing how horrible people treat each other and it physically pains me. 

Some of it is trivial but ya know sometimes those little things are the things that push us over the edge.   I don't suffer from diagnosed depression or anxiety but I do have moments...honestly I think everyone has moments.  I've learned to control them or overcome them but I have instances where one sentence or one word even can send me into a downward spiral.  It's almost like someone cut the only thing keeping me from falling into an abyss, it truly sucks.  On occasion people say things to me and I have to mentally *whoosa, whoosa* while reminding myself that they aren't trying to upset me it is just a conversation.  But there are some individuals that you can just tell they are saying what they are saying because they know it upsets you.  It is a deliberate attempt to hurt you and I feel these people should have acid sprinkled on their genitals. 

I'm not talking about opinions that I don't agree with, I am talking about just being an uncivilized ass.  Yea I deal with it pretty well most of the time but I know its not that easy for others and my heart goes out to them.  I heard about something recently that reminded me of this.  It's not an extreme case of bullying or anything like that but it is someone who felt the need to be a jerk for the sole purpose of being a jerk, I think.  I don't know where it took place or when (may have been some time ago) but it was at a convention of some sort.  These persons seemed to feel the need to go there just to make the people there feel stupid. I know not everyone likes every show/movie/game/other "nerdy" thing but why degrade other people?

From what I gathered it was them asking why the person likes *insert TV Show/Movie/Game/Whatever* and then when they answered all excited they were made to feel stupid.  I was informed many responded with witty remarks firing right back at the persons but apparently some felt attacked.  As in it ruined the rest of the day for them.  Now this could have all been done out of a need to be silly but possibly they didn't make that clear to the persons they were speaking to.  I don't know, I wish I could see it and make a judgement for myself instead of going off of hearsay.  I know we can't please everyone or mind everyone's feelings but we all should be aware that deliberately goading someone is not kosher. Not everyone has a thick skin.  What if you ended up being a trigger...what if that person was finally feeling accepted and because of your joke went home crying because even in nerd central they weren't safe from attack...? 

Supposedly, these persons were fans of other Sci-Fi and were ambushing people who liked stuff they didn't or something of that nature.  I don't get it...I personally think "nerds" should stick together not tear each other apart.  If you like Star Wars and I like Star Trek, I'm sure we can "argue" all day long about why one is better than the other BUT I'm not going to degrade you because you like a different piece of Sci-Fi than I like (I like both by the way).  People go to Conventions to feel accepted.  Seeing their favorite actors is lagniappe.  They want to be surrounded by others that are die hard fans like them, not to be cut down because they have a different idea of what is "proper" Science Fiction.  That is the beauty of Sci-Fi you can't define it in any particular way.  It is all things nerdy and it is amazing so don't knock your fellow nerds...they get enough of that from non-nerds. 

I am going to give these persons the benefit of the doubt and say they were just having a little fun at the expense of their fellow fanatics and not deliberately trying to be hurtful.  I hope I am correct.  

I guess this can apply to this situation, maybe (among many, many others):

“I would wish that people would accept people for who they are, not be judgmental, allow people to live their lives and enjoy themselves and that would be my wish for people.”
― John Barrowman