Except said person is in fact a 50+ year old male and its a divorce. I've witnessed many divorces unfortunately. I've lived through my parents (I was VERY young) and sat by quietly as friends end their marriages. I don't judge. Sometimes, it just isn't going to work. Sometimes it is the only option. But it is NEVER okay to get ugly. And 9 times out of 10 they are UGLY. It is even worse when children are involved.
This one is no different. There are lies and hurt and secrets and did I mention lies. Divorce brings out your true colors or well brings the nastier ones to the surface. It really does bring out the worst in people. It is bad enough you "fell out of love" or whatever but why do you have to try to hurt each other more. Why is it necessary to be mean just to make sure they aren't happier than you. I am so different sometimes. I've gone through bad breakups, one was very much like a marriage. It had the potential to get REALLY ugly but somehow we didn't let it. It wasn't unicorns pooping rainbows but we were mostly mindful of each others feelings.
This is almost never how things work out. What is hilarious to me is the person asking for the divorce seems to be the one that is usually so utterly mean. The cheater or the one who sees greener grass or whatever, almost always is the one who gets so worked up and angry. It's baffling, the only thing I can think of is it is their guilt bleeding through. On some level they know whatever happened to make them want a divorce is their fault so they start lashing out. What kills me is the one being attacked who has EVERY RIGHT to be angry and mean usually is just like "Okay, it's fine. Whatever you want." They are so beat down and disappointed they don't have time to be an asshat. Again not always the case but I've seen it more than not.
It also amazes me how different men and women are in a divorce. While women do have a tendency to get VERY emotional, not all go Carrie Underwood on their ex's cars. Just like not all men decide to sleep with everything that moves after they split up. But I notice men do not seem to "heal" as fast. While women many times end up with confidence problems, they have a support base (friends and family) that build it back up pretty quick but for men it is like their "pride" has been bruised so they act like dickwads to build it back up. Newsflash not all women are deserving of your royal ass-ness so quit it. And stop shaming your exes with the other divorced males in the vicinity of females. One it is rude and two it is incredibly immature. If you need to have a male bonding time make sure I can't hear you because now I want to nut punch you for being a twat booger. Also blaring One less problem for all to hear is not helping us think you are "okay". We now think you are a bit emotionally distraught. If you want to do that at home, more power to you but in public maybe tone it down a bit.
I just find it hilarious how some revert back to teenage drama when breaking up. Maybe I am different and don't see the need to hurt someone who hurt me. It may be painful but to me they have moved on, so why dwell on it longer than necessary. It's their loss, right. Plus I find the best "revenge" is to move on. Nothing hurts more than knowing you f**ked up and now they are happy without you.
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