4th First Date, Yea Another One ;)

Seriously, Do I have "I ♥ Dorks, tattooed to my Forehead"????

So I went on a date with this guy. He works with at the same company as my Aunt. Talked to him on the phone and saw some pics and he seemed cute-ish. The PROBLEM, in the pics he had on a hat and/or sunglasses. So we meet up and my first thought was "Hmmmmm, he kinda looks like my High School Sweetheart", and that was it no chance of attraction. Not that I do not like my HS Sweetheart but I wouldn't want to date him again therefore this date was pretty much over the second it started. But you can't hold it against him so I gave it a chance.

We went eat at Outback and there was a wait. So we are waiting in the bar area and I am like "I need a BEER", haha (it had been a ROUGH week). So he goes to get us drinks. I am standing there and this guy walks up to his wife, who is sitting at the bar in-front of me and says "Dumb blonde hostess said 20 min, 25 min ago and now just said another 15 min to wait. Dumb blonde b---h." I didn't say anything, then he turned around and was like "Oh hey there, uh no offense." And his wife/gf told me I could feel free to dump my drink on him. He he. They were super nice and funny. There were two seats by them and they offered them to me and my date. Well the guy turns around and sees my date with this MASSIVE beer (Abita Amber) and he said "Think you can drink all that man." To which my date replied, "Its for her." The guy turned to me and said "Thats for you? My kinda girl!" And gave me high five for it ;) Haha. Well my date sat down and he didn't have a drink. So I am thinking "OMG really another NON-drinker, are you freaking kidding me!" Not that I want someone who is a hardcore drinker but I like to have fun and I usually drink soooooooooooooooo someone who will drink with me would be nice.

Well our new friends went to stalk a table by the bar, and we talked and kinda got to know each other a little while waiting for a table. Well I notice the table behind us is about to pay and since we are in the bar and its every man for himself in that area I started watching closely. He was like are you really gonna snatch that table when they get up...I was like HELL YEA, I'm hungry ;) haha. So I did and he was like, WOW. That's when I realized how "Innocent" he was.

So here's the low down: He drinks just not a-lot...just because, he has NEVER tried any Abita beers and he has lived here all his life, He's never HEARD of Jager - which blows my mind because he went to college, he doesn't really go out, he lives on some acreage his parents gave him and has farm stuff, he's an IT guy, he's into NASCAR (I almost died), his idea of fun is outdoor anything (4-wheelers, camping, fishing, etc - Cool, I can dig that), his last gf was protestant and he talked with her parents about not having sex until marriage..............and he thinks I am just the most beautiful thing in the world - oh lord.

OK so he was VERY nice, I mean seems like a great guy BUT he was such a dork. And not in a cute dork way, like really kinda geeky/dweeby. Well after dinner (and a very large beer) he asked if I wanted to go to a movie. I started to say no, but I decided to go anyway. So we go see "Wanted", which if you like really far fetched Matrix type stuff is great. I liked it but some scenes were so out there I was laughing (thats terrible right). Well the movie was like 1.5 hr away from starting so we went get a drink while waiting. And he got a drink with me (Cool). He decided to try an Abita Amber...to which he said was too strong, he much prefers a bud light...OYE. I am so not a Bud Girl unless I am tubing and even then its BUD not Bud light. But to each his own. I also found out he really hasn't tried hard liquor until recently but only rum, JD & tequila but he didn't really like them...much prefers beer.

Anyways we are in the bar and I go to use the restroom and this random drunk guy stops me and says "I don't want you to feel left out, can I give you a hug." to which I replied "I have Mace" and his friends just about died laughing, and asked me to stick around. I ended up giving him a hug and told them I was on a date. They were like....Ohhhhhh, with him, really. Whatever silly drunks. But it kinda sucked bc the guy that hugged me was really cute! Anyway, right before the movie I went potty again and as I was walking to the door, it flung open at me and this woman said sorry. Then she said, "Hey, the Hot girl, don't worry honey my friend that liked you left." I was like darn, but I laughed.

Ok, so all throughout the movie he kept trying to hold my hand and I had my arms folded or in my lap...not bitchy standoffish but standoffish none-the-less. Well at one point he was like are you cold and offered an arm and I was like no I'm good (I know not nice but I didn't want him to get the wrong idea). After the movie he brought me back to my car and I hugged him and said thanks and jumped out of the MASSIVE 4x4 pick-up. He was like I'll call you, I said uh ok sure and hopped in my car.

So like I said very nice, but ZERO attraction. We talked a-lot and joked so I could see him as a friend but nothing more. But I mean seriously why are these guys always after me. Do I have an I date dorks sign on me? I guess I am just too nice, whatever.

My Car is Tempermental!!!

When it rains it freakin' pours...

My luck this week has been grrrreeeaaaattt! OK so I go get my Oil Changed last Friday at the 5 min oil near my office. And the guys are like 19 - 20 yr old and holy crap they were shamelessly flirting with me. I was like, "helloooooo keep ya eyes under the hood". Well anyways I am sitting there and I hear *bang, bang, bang* so I stuck my head out the window and was like WHAT ARE YOU DOING?! He said "Oh its stuck" I was like, "um so you took a hammer to it?" He laughed and took off whatever he was trying to get to. Well, I noticed my music had gone off but it came back on so I was like, stupid station.

Flash Forward to Saturday night - I am working for my promo model job and plugged my phone in while driving. When I got to the promo I noticed my phone hadn't charged and I was like...Crap it wasn't plugged in all the way. No biggie.

Flash to Monday - Driving to work phone wont charge...I'm thinking: "Uh oh my phone is dying...ahhhhhh". Get to work and it charges, whew. Now I am thinking "Oh crap my AC Adapter went out. Grrrr!"

Flash to Tuesday - I am told by our in house Mechanic I probably blew a fuse. He finds the blown fuse, changes it and it blows immediately, he changes that one, and *POP* that one goes too. He says I may have a short someplace (fabulous!). He says no biggie, we'll check it out tomorrow since its just the AC Adapter.

Flash to Wednesday - (OK mind you it has not rained since last week at this point). I am driving to work and go, "hey my windshield it dirty, lets clean it". *presses wiper button* nothing happens...*presses button again* nothing still. *starts panicking in car because its about to rain and am on I-10* "ahhhhhhhhhh".

Come to find out. JACK ASSES at 5 minute oil scrapped the metal screwdriver on a wire (exposing part of the wire) while banging around in my car, which sent a surge to my phone charger, creating a short in it....this caused the charger to continually FRY the fuses WHICH were connected to not just my AC Adapter but my wipers, power windows and dome lights.

Needless to say my car was not doing so hot at that point.

Thank goodness we have an in house mechanic or I would have completely freaked out. Oh wait it gets better, while he is figuring out what keeps killing my fuses, they discover I need new brake pads & have a nail in my tire. OMG REALLY!

Well anyways all is fixed now but I have had one heck of a week with my poor little car ;)!

3rd, 1st Date (Yet Another Guy)

I'm not sure why I even agreed to go on this one...

OK so this guy I've known (sort-of) since sometime around High School asked me to go on a date. I avoided the subject, didn't answer his calls/texts and deleted anything cutesy he put on my "social networking site". Well he kept on asking. So I finally was like well why not, what harm could come from going out to dinner. There is a reason I am blonde ;) haha.

So we went out last Friday to have dinner. He insisted on picking me up but I do not like people I do not know to know where I live, so I finally got him to agree to me meeting him someplace. So we went eat Sushi, which I LOVE! It was a little uncomfortable at first but not too terribly bad. He's kinda funny and easy to talk to. The problem...I felt ZERO attraction to him but we were having fun. Well after an OK sushi dinner, not the best I've ever had but OK sushi, he asked if I wanted to go to a movie or go get drinks...I opted for the movie.

It was kinda late and I wanted to hear the end of the game...WHICH WE LOST :P but we headed to the theater. We went to see the new Steve Carrell movie, which was great but I am biased I think he is hilarious!

So we are sitting in the theater and he lifts the arm rest... I was like "what tha?" That tells ya how long its been since I've gone to the movies, I didn't know new theaters had movable armrests ;) haha. That move made me uncomfortable... So all during the movie he kept getting closer, I was like "GREAT :P". Then he would try to hold my hand and I would fold my arms...super witch right. But I didn't want him to get the wrong idea. Well I was so into the movie I let my guard down and he got a-hold of my hand. I was trying to nicely let go, but he somehow kept getting a-hold of it. So I finally acted like I was cold so I could fold my arms...BIG MISTAKE...he put his arm around me, "DOH". Well I contorted myself into the most uncomfortable position for both of us and he moved his arm, "YAY!".

Well anyways after the movie he brought me back to my car. I am thinking I gave him a fairly cold shoulder in the theater so hopefully he got the hint. Again, I was WAY OFF. So we get to my car and he got out to open the door. So I walked over to my car and I gave him a hug, a very not close, hey lets be friends kinda hug. As I pulled away and started to turn, he kinda grabbed me by the shoulders and kissed me. Just on the lips, no tongue...but I froze. I was like "Crap" and I pulled away...uncomfortably said goodbye and left.

SO flash forward to Sunday. I get on my "social networking site" and have these...messages. "Kisses, hugs, cuddles" from him and the biggest "Oh crap!" moment, he had changed his status to "in a relationship". I was like, "Like hell, that better not be meaning me!".

So far he has called/texted/IMed and messaged on "social networking site". Now he wants to come get me for lunch...not cool. So I've been rude, standoffish, cold and he still wants to meet me again and indirectly says how much he thinks of me. For god's sake it was one date!!!!!!!!!!

2nd, 1st Date (Different Guy)

Sometimes I wonder what is going on in my own head...

We all know its usually a bad idea to go on a date with a "friend" but for some reason we still do it sometimes, hoping it doesn't ruin things. So I went on a date with this guy I've known since college. He is a really nice guy...almost too nice. I remember over the years he's gotten his heart broken a few times. He seems to dive head first into things and forgets to think about him. At least thats what I have seen over the years.

So I was kind of nervous about this "date" one because I've been out of the dating scene for so long AND because he was an acquaintance of a guy I dated in College (for 3 years). So needless to say it was a little uncomfortable at first.

I met him at his apartment, which I normally do not do when I first go on a date but since I knew him from before, I thought, why not. So I went there after work (5PM). I changed into Jeans and chatted with his roommate while he got ready.

We left to go eat at 6PM (way too early for me) so we went to hang out at a new brewery/restaurant. We sat at the bar and at first we didn't talk too much, but after a few sips of beer we were chatting like old friends. Not a lot of flirting though. We ended up eating there and having a couple more beers. Great food and the beer wasn't so bad either. Well we left there and went to this wine loft place...and ordered beers, nice right ;). Well we sat on one of the couches and would get a little close then one of us would move away. It was kinda funny. Anyways we were there for a while, chatting and stuff. Discussing how he thought me and my ex were still together because every time he's in town...we are together. Well after the first beer at the wine place he moved on to crown and coke...I stuck with beer.

Then we left there and went to this restaurant next door to eat a snack and drink some more. We sat at the bar at this restaurant also and after we ordered he suddenly and very smoothly put his arm around me. Which I was a little uncomfortable with at first but adjusted to as I got yet another beer. OK so we get a couple appetizers and drank and talked until closing time, which since it was a weeknight, was 10:30ish.

We headed back to his place for me to get my car (my keys were inside - I didn't really think about this before hand). So anyways like I said limited flirting between us so I didn't think anything of going back to his place to get my stuff. Well either I was completely oblivious to the signs or I made him extremely uncomfortable about flirting with me bc all of a sudden back at his place he kissed me.

Wow, can I just say, WOW. He is a great kisser. So instead of me going home (I was supposed to stay at a friends house) at a decent time...I made out with my old college friend for a few hours. It has been a very long time since I have had an extended make out session, I forgot how fun it is ;). Needless to say by the time we stopped it was oooooh 2AM and I had work in the morning. I was going to leave but he insisted I stay because of it being so late. So I argued a little but then I did stay...nothing happened...maybe little more kissing. So anyways, 7AM came very quickly and I had to shower. So I showered a this guys house and left to go to work.

I NEVER do that. I still cannot believe I slept at his house after 1 date...I mean nothing happened but still. Of course I did know him from before so its not that weird but still. Anyways, I had a great time with him and he was a GREAT kisser sooooooooooooooo I guess we'll see if there is a date number two with him.

My First, First Date in 4.5 years

So I went on a date...with this guy...and it was so weird (but not in a bad way)

This guy is a little older than me (he's 33) but we've talked on the phone and he seemed fun.

So we met at Cheesecake Bistro to have dinner. Oh my God can I just say, that place is freaking crowded and LOUD. But the food was still pretty good :) He was super sweet. Not really the type of guy I usually go after (AKA he's not tall and skinny ;)) He's like 5'6" I think and not a big guy but not skin and bones, haha. We laughed ALOT and got along really well. We talked about so many different things that I couldn't even tell you what was said ;).

So anyways we are there and of course you know me, the first thing I do is order a Dirty Martini, cause thats how I roll and he ordered a Water...with Lemon... I was like OK maybe he just doesn't like to drink in-front of people he doesn't really know. Then we ordered and I am not the chick who gets the smallest salad and whatnot, but I did get a healthy dish (blackened chicken) and ate like 1/3 of it, I was too busy talking. Well anyways at the end of dinner he asked if I wanted to go to a movie. Since I was having so much fun of course I said yes ;)

So we go to the theater (and its now like 9:45PM) and are looking at the Movies that are playing. Well I don't know about you but I do not like to see an R rated movie on a first date...a steamy sex scene makes all uncomfortable. So we see "You don't mess with the Zohan" the new Adam Sandler Movie. It's PG-13, we were both like, silly comedy, PERFECT. Holy Crap were we wrong. Can I just tell you it was like borderline soft porn, Hahaha I'm not kidding. The whole movie was about Sex and his package. It was pretty funny but oh my, we saw the Zohan's butt like 10 times. So that was so much more uncomfortable than seeing ONE steamy sex scene, hahaha. Anyways, he was very "slick", he somehow maneuvered my arm and then was holding my hand. He was caressing my fingers and hand, it was so weird (not bad) bc I am so not used to that.

Well after the movie he walked me to my car, ALL the way in the back of the lot. I offered to bring him to his car because it was in the parking garage on the way other side of the lot. So he got in my messy car (I had work papers everywhere) and I drove him to his car. So he was about to get out of the car and HELLO he kissed me. Like not a peck, like full on K-I-S-S. I was like um, yea hi there. The problem: He liked to have gagged me with his tongue. It was very invasive, at least to me...I really wasn't expecting it. So then he was all call me when you get home. After he got out, I made sure I was well out of view and cracked up and shook my head. I kept thinking how bad that was. Not the ending I was expecting to such a nice date. Anyways, I think he might like me and I actually like him...just not the kissing part...which is kinda important so whatever we'll see.

Thats my story for now ;)

I am so tired of this B.S.

Why is it that when I am ready to "talk" the other person is NOT and Vice Versa!?!?

It never fails. I have been wanting to lay all the cards on the table for a few weeks now. Talk about how we are going to "split" things etc. Well he has avoided my inquiries since the last time we talked. So instead I have been "fishing" for answers. I hate doing this!!! It's not me, I am all about if you don't want to tell me something Fine, but in this case its a bit different. So I feel like I have been nagging and OMG I hate being that person. Well being all frustrated I have been quite sharp with my comments, meaning I've been taking chop shots because I do not know what to think. Not the most mature thing but I am hurting and somewhere in my subconscious I want him to feel the same hurt he is causing me to feel. I think I want him to suffer which is weird bc I am not usually vengeful but HOLY CRAP I think he deserves it after all the B.S. he has put me through since my birthday!

Anyways like I said I have been trying to talk and instead I end up being a super defensive biotch and its just not helping the situation. So on to why I am tired of the B.S. Last night I had to go to driving school in BR (stupid speeding ticket). I decided I might spend the night at my grandparents house since it was going to be late by the time I got out. Well while I am still at work (and on the phone with a customer mind you) I have the following IM conversation with A-hole:

(12:14:22 PM) A-Hole: so you not coming back tonight?
(12:14:44 PM) Me: I dunno, depends on when the class lets out
(12:14:49 PM) A-Hole: k
(12:14:52 PM) Me: y?
(12:15:02 PM) A-Hole: just curious
(12:15:06 PM) Me: oh
(12:15:33 PM) A-Hole: don't want to get yelled at for not getting dinner for two people or turning on the alarm
(12:21:38 PM) Me: :P\
(12:21:41 PM) Me: I said I was sorry
(4:10:17 PM) A-Hole: ?
(4:10:31 PM) A-Hole: did you bring clothes to stay in BR?
(4:10:34 PM) Me: yea
(4:11:04 PM) A-Hole: I would like to be alone tonight, so if you wouldn't staying up there, it would be appreciated...oh and zeus lost another 6 pounds
(4:11:39 PM) Me: ???????
(4:12:03 PM) Me: What is that all about?
(4:12:31 PM) A-Hole: I just don't feel like putting up with arguing or bickering ok?
(4:14:31 PM) Me: I want to talk to you not argue with you. I said I was sorry about all that. I dont want to do that either.
(4:17:42 PM) A-Hole: well you can call and we can talk..I just want to be alone tonight
(4:17:48 PM) Me: I hate this
(4:17:52 PM) Me: this is stupid, sorry
(4:17:58 PM) A-Hole: why?
(4:22:46 PM) Me: it just is to me. I know I annoy you now and I dont want to. Ive never been a nag in my life and I was recently and it drives me insane.
I just dont like to be told over IM that I am being requested not to come home. Ill call you...eventually. And I do want to talk...again. and tell you why I have been so flipping upset.
(4:24:27 PM) A-Hole: why is it to you? seriously..I'm asking nicely....I just want to be alone...if you don't understand that, you can come back and I'll head on down to thibodaux....I apologize for telling you over this, but I didn't feel like calling you at work at telling you this
(4:25:28 PM) Me: You made me freaking cry while on the phone with a customer...I know you didn mean it but it still happened. Its fine. It just also seemed like you were pointing a finger at me about the zeus thing bc it was attached to the other thing
(4:25:51 PM) A-Hole: no I wasn't...again..I apologize..I'll leave you alone
(4:26:39 PM) Me: its ok. It just shocked me
(4:28:02 PM) Me: All I asked (in my text earlier) was for us to act civil with each other. It applies as much to me as you. It wasn;t meant to be mean just a suggestion
(4:28:28 PM) A-Hole: I didn't take it as mean
(4:28:44 PM) Me: k

So I call him (for some stupid reason) to check on the dog. He doesn't answer so I leave a message. He called me back all jerkish and cocky and wanted to know what I wanted. I asked about the dog and he told me and then just sat there. So I told him I had to go and he said to call him later.

Well during class I sent a text out to all my buddies that knew I had to go to driving school (including him) and said "This Sucks!". He replies " Come back to the house so we can talk. I'm tired of dragging this out." So I started to reply while I was on a break but got annoyed and just called. His VM picked up. So I said "I cannot come home. This class isn't supposed to let out until 9PM and I don't really want to drive that late if I don't have to. Plus I wont get home until after 10PM, are we really going to sit down and hash all this out at that hour?! Look I don't know what you are going to tell me, but please think long and hard about what you are going to say because I don't think I can take being crushed yet again." and hung up. All of this was said very calm and normal not angry. He called back right away and asked why I got so pissed when he just wanted to talk like I've been asking for. I got a little mad but tried to contain it. I told him again what I thought. He said whatever your dog is being stupid! And we hung up. Mature right?

So after class and after I went to a later dinner with my grandparents I decided not to call him like I said I would do. Instead I sent him a text "Well I am out. I am suddenly terrified to talk to you...bc I am so scared of being blindsided again. It's been on my mind all night...good night dear friend."

I still haven't heard from him and do not expect to until I get home later. Am I wrong for being annoyed? I mean I have been trying to take care of this for weeks and of course it doesn't cross his mind until I am not even close to home and not ready...WTF!