Okay so I've been told since I was a wee wittle one that I am very expressive. I would put on a face to let people know I was not having any of their $hit. My mom has always said that getting me to smile as a child was sometimes a challenge which cracks me up because these days I am usually all smiles, even when I am not feeling 100%. I guess I learned that one as I grew up. You know put on a happy face so no one will ask what is wrong. Probably not the healthiest way to deal with things but I like to keep stuff to myself so yea. So I have the open look where you know what I am thinking or I have the closed look where I could be feeling anything but on the outside you'd never know.
But apparently as I get older my open facial expressions are more telling and more frequent. So when before I used to wear a "mask" so to say and people didn't really know what I was thinking...today my thoughts are written all over my face. I can still do the mask if I think about it but its become less of a habit.
This my friend is a problem! I work with face to face with clients fairly frequently and when they say dumb things I have to remind myself to not react. It is almost torture. Because I want to give the ultimate "bitch please" face but instead I just smile and say, "its not a problem" or whatever.
So I must remember that my raised eyebrow, deer in the headlights look (its my surprise face but my boss calls it that), sideways stare, expressionless "are you kidding me" look, eyebrows pulled together while staring people down and fake "hahaha, you are an idiot" laugh should probably be left at home only to be used in my personal life. Otherwise I risk the chance of getting fussed at for being intolerable, inconsiderate, unprofessional or something of that nature. I am not trying to be a jerk but other people are rude; unfortunately I work in high level customer service...I wish I could be rude right back but I cannot because then I am the "bad guy".
But you know what if you say something inappropriate to me be prepared for my bitch face + sarcasm. Go ahead and report me! My figure/my face/my clothing/my marital status/my whatever have NOTHING to do with why I am meeting with you. You have no right to make me feel uncomfortable because you can't control your hormones! That is something no one has to tolerate no matter what their position is.
Let me clarify, I am not talking about someone saying I look nice today or I like your shoes/skirt/hair...I am talking about the oogy, look you up and down and make a lewd comment people. Or the people who "get in trouble" for not doing their job so they complain about what you wear because "it is distracting". Swear to God this happened! I don't dress "sexy" for work. I dress professional/trendy. I am sorry but if you see some shoulder or some collarbone or some kneecap and can't think straight enough to work that is YOUR problem, not mine! Quit looking at me as a sex object you creep! Yes this still happens. I know some people try to say that this doesn't happen in the workplace/business setting anymore because of "laws" but I can tell you it most certainly DOES still happen and reporting it isn't easy because it is your word against theirs and honestly unless they are being touchy or aggressive it is not worth it (isn't that awful?!?!?!).
So I use my bitch face, my sarcasm, my invisible armor and I make a mental note not to be alone with people who make me uncomfortable or I suggest we meet in a more public area instead of their office. I protect myself because we all know I am the only one who really cares what happens to me. All I need is another weirdo showing up at my office because they think we are whatever and then yelling at me because I don't return the feelings (yes this also happened...it wasn't a client but my "niceness" bit me in the ass).
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