Well that's what I feel like anyway. Seriously, I used to think that some women blew the whole "men are pigs" thing out of proportion, as in overly reading into their actions, but now I am not so sure. Let me clarify, I am not talking about the ones that are obviously a threat to a female. I am talking about getting mad because someone innocently said they looked pretty. Anyway, I know there are many good men out there but there also seems to be an equal amount of not so good ones. They aren't bad as in I fear my safety but some just give me the heebie jebbies.
This morning a guy growled at me. Honest to god. He looked me up and down and made a guttural sound that reminded me of a noise my dogs make. I've read books and "stories" where they author says something along the lines of "he growled in anticipation". Since I've never experienced this, I find this statement a bit funny. My husband is apparently not a "growler", well when he is being silly but that is totally different. I get that it is supposed to be an animalistic response to the female doing something extremely sexy but saying he "growled" makes me giggle.
Moving on. The fact that this person growled at me, really creeped me out. I felt about 2" tall and almost threatened. Not truly feeling in danger because I know him, well sort of, we aren't that close (which something can be said about that) but the look was devouring and the sound predatory, at least to my eyes and ears. Plus I feel like that was an intimate gesture, as in an acknowledgment of other things to happen. If it was my husband, I would have thought next he'll say "bedroom, now" or something of that nature. My point is its been a long time since I felt like nothing more than a piece of meat and exposed. I gave a nervous laugh/smile and inched my way around him trying to have an air of confidence, rather than show how uncomfortable I felt. He came found me a bit later and said he just wanted to let me know I looked nice today, which is very sweet and none of the previous "look" was there.
I just hate that he thought that initial response was okay or welcomed. Yes, I appreciate being told I look nice or whatever but there are lines that should not be crossed and I feel like one was crossed today. If it had been a stranger, I would have been in fight or flight mode, thinking I would need to defend myself. Honestly, it was like a scene from a lifetime movie. No one around, girl looks delicious, guy thinks I want & I shall have and then things go all wonky.
I am by no means a supermodel. I am cute and quirky. As in, I know I am attractive but I don't expect to trigger that kind of response based on my business attire. Not that a response of that nature should EVER be issued by someone other than your significant other!
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