I am saying this because today someone whom I see daily just tried to make me feel like ass for one of my trendy choices. This is not a new occurrence, she knocks my "style" and personality regularly. Okay yes I work in a professional environment and must dress accordingly. But I use some flexibilities to express my style with accessories. A newer trend re-surfacing is bow ties. Well I am a girl and while I could wear a bow tie if I wanted, it would look kinda silly with my dress. Instead I found this SUPER cute blue bow bracelet. Its a little big for my arm but I have itty bitty wrists so pretty much anything on my arm looks ginormous. I personally think its adorable and have been complemented by strangers in public so yea whatever.
Yes, I know its different but I like it, so :P. Here is how the conversation went down. We were discussing something and I was talking with my hands (as usual) and she stopped me mid-sentence. She said "what is THAT on your arm?" I said um, its a bow. She said "well why are you wearing it?" I said well its a bracelet. She said "yea but WHY? I saw it yesterday and thought it was weird". I replied, its just a bracelet, I thought it was cute. She said "well its not, its weird and it looks silly. I guess whatever". And she walked out. Proceeded to walked to another person and talk extremely loud and both of them laughed wildly. Can I say for sure it was about me...no, but the timing is just screaming they are being mean girls.
Wow...really? So just because its not your style its not kosher? Its a flipping bow bracelet, I didn't walk in with blue hair, shaved on one side and a lip ring. In a professional environment I can see how THAT may incite criticism but really a blue freaking bow bracelet?!? And she keeps harping on it. Like if she annoys me enough about it, I'll take it off. Seriously, I don't look like I'm going to the club or anything. I have on a maxi skirt, dress top, heels and well this.
Its not that big of a deal I know but its not the only thing just the one the pushed me over the edge a bit. I am regularly criticized for not blending with the norm by nearly everyone around me...well except a couple friends and my husband. My family now seems to find my determination to be an individual acceptable. It defines me, ha. I am not a sheep, I do not say Baaaah :P. I am my own person and if I want to wear a bow on my wrist, bright nail polish, whatever, whats the big deal...? Does it break dress code standards...? If so, okay I guess I'll stop wearing it but I really don't see how that would be a dress code infraction. Someone else around here comes to work in t-shirts, jeans and tennis shoes daily maybe go harp on them a bit.
Like I said, not your bullying in the traditional sense but its habitual badgering for me to change who I am and while they are minor personality traits they are me and I don't want them to go away!
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