I swear I sound like an old lady sometimes but I have my morals and I wonder why some parents aren't passing the same morals down to their little girls. I do not have children yet but I would like to think my little girl/boy would have a good set of morals and understand the term common decency.
I went to dinner Saturday night with my husband. As we were pulling up to the restaurant he jokingly said "OMG look at all the 'hookers'!" Thinking he was making fun of some random women hanging out in the front. I replied "No babe, those girls are going to homecoming". When we got a little closer he could see how young they were. Now we are not THAT old but there is definitely a massive difference between what I consider appropriate for a High School homecoming and what these girls' parents think. These girls were 16/17 years old and seriously looked like they were waiting to pick up a John on the highway. Almost every one of them was wearing a sequined mini-dress, that was either strapless or had teeny tiny straps with cleavage peaking out, oh an don't forget the glittery/clear 5-7 inch heels. I am not exaggerating!!!
One girl I saw was beautiful. She had very long light brown hair with subtle curls/waves. She was so cute and then I looked at her outfit and *tsk tsk*. It was a gold sequin mini-dress the came just below the butt, it was strapless with a sweetheart neck showing some cleavage and it was SUPER tight, which she could pull off because she was 90lbs but still. Not to mention the glittered 5" heels that she couldn't walk in. So all in all I think it was maybe a yard of fabric...I might be being generous. My point is she was so pretty a garbage bag would have looked fab on her but her outfit made her look cheap. The proudest moment I saw was when her date covered her up with his jacket, good boy!
I'm no fashion guru but there are ways to look "sexy-classy" not that a High School girl should be going for sexy but whatever. If you are going to wear a flashy dress, tone down the shoes. Go for a lower heel that isn't as bling bling, since the dress is already bling bling enough. If you want a short dress to show off the legs than cover up the top a bit. Pick a looser fit, have some sleeves, cover up that cleavage! If you want to show more arm/chest, pick a longer dress (not to the floor but at least mid thigh) and maybe not have a dress that is painted on, as in not as tight. If you want SUPER tight to show off the curves make it a little longer and cover the top. Trust me people will still notice the ta-ta's even if they are covered in a tight dress. In all scenarios do NOT wear a 5" heel unless you know how to walk in them! You look like a baby giraffe learning how to walk, its not attractive. If you want to be a big girl and wear super heels practice walking in them BEFORE the dance. And if you must dress like the youngins I saw this weekend wear a cardigan to dinner!
Come on girls, make the guys work for it. Dressing like that makes you look easy! Maybe that's what they were going for, the "hey I give it up" look. What made me cringe even more was I found out the dance they were going to was a CHRISTIAN High School!!! I went to a Catholic High School and they wouldn't have let me in the door looking like that (good Lord I sound like my mother). We had to look respectable otherwise we weren't getting in the dance! I know if my butt was on the verge of hanging out my dress, the ladies at the door would have called my momma to come get me...just saying. Not that my momma would have let me out in public looking like that...she wouldn't have bought me the dress in the first place and like hell would she have put my in 5" stilettos...much less let me leave the house with out something on my shoulders!!!
There was just so many things wrong with what I saw. These young, beautiful girls looked so cheap and trashy. I know our society glamorizes sex/sexy/slutty but its the parents job to say no...you are too young...when you are 20 something you can dress like a hooker but not while I'm in charge. Like I said, no need to look like a nun but come on! Parents step up to the plate and be PARENTS! Tell your kids no because this is your one chance to mold them into respectable adults. Being their friend will get you NO WHERE. It will get you a 16 & pregnant, high school drop out that struggles through college with a baby...IF she even goes to college. Or something even worse...you know what kind of MESSED up people will be ogling your baby girl. If the prepubescent boys are getting a hard on, imagine the dirty, sick older men that are imagining doing God knows what to her. You have ONE job as a parent...do your job! Teach them right at a young age and they will grow into a proper adult. If they still choose the wrong path at least you know you did what you were supposed to do as a parent. If you don't try and they eff up royally you have no one to blame but yourself and it will affect the relationship you have with them as they get older. They will not respect you for being their friend but they will forever cherish you for setting them on the right path.
And I know I don't understand it all because I do not have kids yet but I have morals and expectations and I do not want my future daughter(s) or son(s) to live with regrets because of poor decisions on my part.
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