I am so not amused

While I appreciate that it is being noticed my hard work is paying off...I still don't like the lecherous...almost threatening "cat call". 

After leaving one of my weekly workout groups I had to stop at the grocery for din din.  

I don't wear anything scandalous but its a dance class, my clothes are fitted. 

Mind you I was fairly gross as its a high intensity class and I was starving so I was focused on get in and out ASAP. 

As I was walking to the door I heard someone yell something.  100% thinking not for me I ignored it.  Then I heard it louder so I turned my head.  This man, who looked like he could have been my father, said something and grabbed his crotch.  

OMG ew!  I couldn't make out what he said (Mask) but his eyes......Ooooogy.  AND HE GRABBED HIS CROTCH!!!!

I had a mask on but I know he heard me say "gross!". So I started walking again and he yelled, something else...it sounded almost angry... I half turned and he said, with his mask off,  "if you don't want people to appreciate your tight @$$ you shouldn't wear tight pants!"

I'm sorry, what f**king year is it?!?!  Who says that?!?! 1.) Just NO! and 2.) I'm small-ish, I look like I'm like 12 when I'm in workout clothes and a baseball hat and it was dark... you sir are a f**king predator.

I just about sprinted to the door and he said something else angrily and I'm pretty sure part of it involved the work C**T, but I didn't turn back. 

After I shopped, I asked one of the employees to walk me to my car because I know he saw what vehicle I got out of and I was honestly concerned.  Thankfully the store took me seriously and asked me what he looked like.  Maybe they'll check the cameras, maybe not but at least I was safely escorted to my car, just in case. 

But now I almost don't want to go there alone again.  This is a nice store in a nice area with mostly nice people.  And this cum stain has tarnished it for me because what if he is a threat....what if he would have or would act on his disgusting comments...what if someone else isn't as quick to get help.  I don't know.  This is the BS females deal with and I f**king hate it. 

You want to look and maybe even wink...whatever but the threatening aggressive comments....I hate people. 

Keep your energy away from my energy!

Okay so I am highly tolerant of "unique" people until someone makes me uncomfortable.  Anyways, I had to go supervise a technician today...we were having issues at my place of business and I was asked to be there bc they would be in closed door meetings all day. 

I was sitting at my desk when this 50 something guy wandered into my office while I was on the phone.  He started touching everything on my desk, came around the back of my desk, and stared at me until I hung up....

I started to pay closer attention to him as I rolled backwards...He looked like a weird overweight mix of Doc Brown (wild hair and receding hairline) & Wayne Campbell...and wore tinted glasses.

Me: Can I help you?  

Him: I need to tell your boss something. 

Me: Ummm tell me, I'll tell her.

He tells me a bunch of crap I know is nonsense.

Then looks at a quote on my desk and says "well I don't agree with that".

Me: Yea, I don't even know what "that" says, a vendor gave it to me...

He then proceeds to go on a 10 min one sided conversation about "Energies" and how we project them and feel them from others. 

Him: You see when I came in here I was projecting an energy that your energy felt.  Did you feel it?

Me: Oh you mean the "he's not creepy vibe"

Him: Yes! Your energies realized I wasn't creepy therefore not a threat *uncomfortable eye contact*

Him: That is how we know when to....trust people and why we do the things we do

Me: Sooooo, like a gut instinct...?  Yea I get those A LOT.

Him: That's Great!  It will keep you safe.....and balance your zen.

Me: *clears throat* So you gonna go do all that...stuff...you said with the system?

*walks out*

What the hell?!?!?!  Over an hour later I go potty.  As I am walking back to my desk...

Me: Hi....

*tells me more BS about the system* He got uncomfortably close to me and said "Do you ever just try to avoid people...who are negative? Or positive people when you are...negative?"  did I mention he smelled like cigarettes, sweat, and stale coffee.

Me: Yes......... *backing up*

Him: *gently grabs my wrist* That's your energy reacting to their energies.

I calmly extracted myself, said..."K, leave the bill on the table" ...walked in my office and locked the door.  I messaged my boss. 

Either he was on something...smoked something...or forgot to takes his meds.  He was CREEPY but didn't seem realize it.. .and had no sense of personal space!

He was probably harmless...maybe...I hope...but I hate to think if he wasn't and I was actually alone.  Every warning was going off in my head telling me to run.

And yes, we had to report it because half the time one of us is alone. 

I feel threatened...I don't feel safe...

Look I try my hardest not to be easily offended but I do not take threats to my person lightly.  Let me set a scene.

I got home from work and decided to wash my car.
I changed into running Capri pants and a tank top.
I washed my car.
THAT'S IT!

While bent over scrubbing bug guts off my bumper I heard "*sucking teeth* Yea gurl".

I glanced over my shoulder and saw 5 teenage boys on bikes riding by.  I IGNORED them. 

They stopped not far from my house but said nothing else. They were making me uncomfortable because I knew they were watching me. 

After wearing myself out scrubbing BUG GUTS and bird $hit off my car, I had no muscle power left to Rain-X my windshield, so I asked my other half for help.  As he was wiping my windshield I was picking up the washing supplies.  Those "kids" came back by right as I walked inside.  That's when I heard something that made my skin crawl.  I heard *in a deep voice*, "hey man, Ima F**K your wife." 

My husband reacted (NOT violently) and they took off.  While my neighbor who happened to be outside BBQ-ing yelled something about them being disrespectful. 

We aren't talking about a bunch of ankle biters.  These teens were much bigger than little old me, some bigger than my husband.  It wasn't an "appreciation" of my body (which is still a bit uncalled for), that was a vile statement.  He didn't say "Your wife is hot", he said "Ima f**k your wife". 

It was a statement of fact.  You didn't hear it, there was a clear threat in his voice.  My gut said run.  I was legitimately frightened.  My husband is concerned for me.  He doesn't want me to be home alone.  And honestly I don't think he is overreacting.  It may have been a "funny" joke to them but it made me extremely uncomfortable. 

I shouldn't feel unsafe in and around my own home.  I don't know them.  They aren't kids from my neighborhood.  What if they come back when I am home alone?  What if they actually mean me harm?

I'm just glad my other neighbor was outside and heard all of it. 

And just to clarify there was no sexy bending...there was no wet t-shirt...there was nothing that suggested I wanted any type of attention much less THAT kind of attention.  I was just washing my f**king car! 

I'm sure if they were confronted they would say it was all in harmless fun.  Yea I bet that's what people say when they threaten the President online.  "Oh it was just a joke, no need to overreact" until that one time, it isn't JUST a joke.