I am apparently a
"flirt". It drove jealous possessive exes
INSANE back in the day. But I refused to change which I think drove them more insane. It is my personality though. I wasn't flirting with intent...it was just me being friendly which I was told equaled
"flirting". It is hard to explain but people who have a naturally
"flirty" personality understand and thankfully my hubs and I are on the same page.
The exes would always tell me I
"flirted" with people right in front of them. That it was disrespectful and showed that I clearly had no boundaries. This
Pissed.Me.Off. I never led anyone on. I never allowed anyone to think my friendliness was anything more that just that...
FRIEND. I acted the same way with girls and boys. I think this confused the Neanderthals I dated. If me being nice was misconstrued as
"I want to f**k you right here", then that person is a moron.
They used to try to make me see how
"hurtful" I was being by flirting with other girls in front of me
(I know, I know I picked real winners here). The difference was
THEY were leading these girls on. They didn't make it clear that their intention was being friendly. They flirted with intent and bought drinks and danced and almost got their
@$$es kicked because these girls would find out who I was and would want to defend the poor girl whose boyfriend was blatantly flirting with them. Their body language was
DIFFERENT! I just stood on the side and
rolled my eyes. Clearly these people were extremely insecure.
Friendly
"flirting" is just that, friendly...
THAT IS IT! I am meeting a new person. I am including their
girlfriend/boyfriend if they have one. I am including their friends if they aren't alone. I am not accepting drinks from them. I am not grinding on them. I am not leaning in or touching them. I am not exchanging numbers with them. I am
JUST F**KING TALKING! The
body language doesn't say
f**k me, just hi.
Flirting with intent is different. You are trying to
"seal the deal". If you are at a
bar/club, you are accepting drinks
and/or dancing. You are exchanging numbers with promises of meeting up in the future. The
body language is different. Your smile is different. You are
leaning in. You are
touching in some way shape or form. You are letting them know
you are interested!
 |
| THAT IS FLIRTING!!!! |
Some how in the last
10 years the ability to read body language has completely disappeared or people are just incredibly cocky now. For some reason every time I smile at someone they suddenly think I am
DTF and I so am
NOT. And I am not talking about complete strangers. I am talking about business associates, vendors, customers, etc. Men and women alike! There was a rumor about me at one of my customers locations that I shamelessly flirted with the
CFO to get in
HER pants. Um
negative ghostrider.
Sooooo what, I can't smile at people or make small talk without
"leading someone on". What the actual
f**k is wrong with everyone?!?!?
Newflash a conversation and a smile does not equal I want to
f**k you...it means I am a nice
f**king human being...
That.Is.All! Jesus, people, read body language. Its not hard. If you smile at me, I just think you are nice. And if you think everyone who looks in your direction wants your
d**k/p***y then
YOU have some serious
ISSUES!
Rant over,
NOLA Gurl out!
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