Okay so there was a lot of joking on my part about how crazy shouldn't be so attractive when I was watching that show on Netflix. You know the one with the guy and the girl and the other guy and other girl and the superpowers....thing (*pssst* it's Jessica Jones if you didn't figure that one out).
Anyways, watching crazy psycho (unfortunately attractive) Kilgrave makes you go "WOW so glad that superpower doesn't actually exist!" I can't imagine someone having that much power of suggestion over me. That is a whole other level of f**ked up.
Then something in the real world happens and you go "F**K some people in REAL LIFE manage to do that without mind controlling superpowers" ...I need an adult!!!!
I say this because I know a lady. She is older than me by a few years but has been married for much longer. It was an awful relationship. From day two no one in her life "liked" him. Everyone liked him at first because he was SUPER HOT and charming (hence the "day two"). He knew just what to say but something was always off. Simmering under the surface, you just got a "danger Will Robinson" vibe. She wasn't a bad person, she just tended to make emotional decisions which weren't always good decisions. She was full of love, very caring...highly empathetic. She had some kids from previous relationships (not judging just stating fact) before she met this person. It was a whirlwind love affair that confused and concerned everyone around her because SHE started to change.
The first incident happened before they married. One of her children was injured and brought to the ER. CPS was called (this is normal). CPS determined the child had suffered multiple instances of abuse from the BF most likely (no one said what but I think we all assumed the worst). No charges were pressed but CPS said he is not allowed around your kids or we will take them away. She chose him over her babies. Her babies almost went into foster care before family stepped up. WTaF?!?! What sane person...in charge of their own faculties willingly gives up their right as a parent?!?!? And for a BF for that matter!?!?! Okay I know some people do but this was way out of character for her, yet she was "okay" with it. Is she having a mental break?!?!?
She married Casanova, had another child, and basically stopped talking to EVERYONE. She came to functions and stuff but wasn't the same. She was spaced out...not really there...most of what she said made little or no sense (and no she wasn't on drugs she had to be tested regularly for work). If her hubby snapped she was at his side doing whatever he asked..."hmmm that's...odd." She went from strong willed to a complete submissive.
*sirens* *red flags* *danger, danger* but no matter what we said she still stayed with him. He cheated on her. He lied to her. He put her in horrid financial situations. He physically hurt her but she never pressed charges... The typical "I fell into a wall" excuse. Somehow he still managed to charm his way into people's hearts (or heads) and convinced them SHE was cuckoo. And yet she stayed. She defended his every indiscretion. He "loved" her.
*Flash Forward a few years* She FINALLY had enough of the cheating and left *angels singing*. But he still has a hold on her. I don't understand. Its like she is 100% brainwashed. He can convince her to do ANYTHING! One day she rants and raves about his crazy manipulation to everyone. Then the next she is saying how he is being such a great guy through all of this. *rinse, repeat* He has turned their child against her. Convinced her that she is in the wrong for leaving his cheating @$$. Convinced her that HE SHOULD HAVE FULL CUSTODY because she doesn't DESERVE their spawn and she should pay him...even though she makes significantly less than him. He somehow convinced her they should still be intimate (this one FLOORS ME). Convinced her to file a whatever that royally screws her over and costs him nothing. Even with everyone SCREAMING "no don't do that" she still did it. He got the house, BOTH cars, the tax refund, their business SIGNED OVER TO HIM, and so much more. She got diddly...well an STD (a curable one but still!). What is happening?!!?!? Can't someone step in and say this is not right...something is very wrong...she is under duress.....anything...?
Yes you can say she is just an idiot but it still doesn't add up. Anyone can see something isn't right. No one f**ks themselves that badly on purpose. She has no self worth. She has no monetary worth. She has insane trust issues. For years he did whatever (and whoever) he wanted and she just did what she was told. Now she is "out" but he is still telling her what to do...and she feels like she has to comply.
Its like a sick compulsion. She freaks out if she goes against him. We are talking a legit panic attack. Every time she goes against him, she freaks the f**k out until she "fixes" it. You tell me that's not scary as $hit! This isn't some mutant from the Comics who has a "power"...this is Joe Blow from podunk. He doesn't have a super power but he still CONTROLS HER MIND. Its not magic. It's manipulation. It's brainwashing. It's AWFUL. He has no conscience. He has no self control. No one made him do anything. He is a bad person.
We have a real life Kilgrave walking among us. He is 100% human and there is nothing we can do except watch our loved one crash and burn.
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