Um, that's a negative Ghost Rider. Why is this the normal way of thinking??? Every relationship is different but why must all married couples be seen as having knock down, drag outs? Yea, people argue but if I've learned anything in my life its that screaming doesn't solve anything. If anything it leads to people saying things in the heat of the moment that they regret later.
Do we have disagreements, of course. But we don't yell at each other. We may change our tone but never screaming.
With that said it REALLY pisses me off when people say "If you don't fight, you aren't in a real relationship". F**k you very much! What kind of warped logic is that?!?! Just because we talk it out instead of screaming at each other doesn't mean our relationship is any less "real". If anything I think that shows just how "real" and MATURE our relationship is.
Love does not equal Fighting
Fighting does not equal Love
I mean that is like step one in admitting something might be wrong.
Disagreements are normal. No one is going to agree with their partner 100% of the time. But constant blow ups are NOT NORMAL. "Fighting it out" is not healthy. Well it might be for some, I guess... But if my husband started screaming at me every time we didn't agree, I am 100% certain he would not be my husband.
I really think this is a maturity issue. The squeaky wheel gets the oil kind of thing. Its not my way of dealing with things, and thankfully it isn't his way either. We bicker, we disagree, but we respect each other. I would never degrade him just to make myself heard and he wouldn't do it to me.
So no we do not have "epic" screaming fights. We have raised our voices minimally (which usually ends up in us laughing) but the day we start solving our problems with screaming is the day we need to sit down and talk about what's actually wrong.
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