A peach is a peach, a prune is a prune...

...I really need to trust my ideas.........va-va-......voom

Alright, I never claimed to be a poet *plfeet*. So my "peach" was a hit.  Well I think it was...she told me she loved it so I feel like it was a success.  Since its given I can say what it was...it was a homemade tutu.  I made it with light green, light purple, light pink and white tulle and BRIGHT skinny coordinating ribbon.  It looked fairy-esc, which is totally me! I love girly things but like I said before I am not all pink ribbons and bows and I don't think that should by any means be forced on lil ones. 

Where did this come from you may be wondering.  Well a friend of mine posted this video about GoldieBlox.  I LOVED it.  I mean just absolutely adored it because it shows girls doing engineering type building "experiments".  Something I do agree we do not encourage our young ladies to do enough.  What irritated me is my friends caption for the video.  It said something along the lines of stop buying everything pink for little girls.  My question is, why blame pink? 

I am certainly not a huge fan of pink...I never have been, I am more of a purple/blue kind of girl.  But just because a girl is girly doesn't mean she can't be interested in science or engineering.  I mean GoldieBlox stuff is actually mostly light pink, yellow and purple, stereotypical girl colors. So her comment pisses me off.  It's not the color, its the message. When I was five I got my first "kiddie" microscope, a few years later I got a much nicer one and I freaking loved it.  I caught and released critters, played (hard) outside, built with Legos and created domino rally runs.  All considered "boy" activities.  But I also wore frilly outfits (mom made), had baby dolls and took dancing.  My point is I was very girly by most standards yet I am and always will be a science nerd.  I love science, I love science fiction, I love knowing how things are made and how inventors come up with their ideas. 

What I am trying to say is people/parents need to stop blaming everyone else for creating future women.  Ladies and gents, it is YOUR job to encourage your daughter.  Just because it is something boyish doesn't mean a girl cannot play with it.  Expose your daughters to science/engineering and see if she likes it.  If she doesn't that is okay, it is not everyone's cup of tea.  Yes, I know there is a stereotype that females can't or aren't qualified enough for those types of jobs/futures but that stereotype is there because of us.  Because our society at some point decided women were inferior in intelligence.  We all know this isn't true but its up to YOU to mold the next generation.  My mom NEVER discouraged me from being me, if anything she encouraged me to be different.  If I showed interest in something she let me explore it, if I got bored with it we moved on...if I showed more interest I got more exposure to it.  And no I did not come from a family with money so I wasn't able to just do whatever I wanted but she was always very supportive. And yes people tried to put me in a "girly" box.  For birthdays I would get things like "girl talk", pink everything, barbies and baby alive type toys.  I liked that stuff enough but I remember one year a boy in my class gave me a bug/critter catch and release kit and it was my favorite thing.  He clearly understood me and we were best buds, till he went to another school :(.

In other news, this goes for boys too!  Stereotypes go both ways!!!!!  I know a boy playing with dolls is a big no no in our society but what is the big freaking deal???  Kids should be allowed to like whatever they want without parents being afraid it might "turn them gay".  I played with trucks, he-man and GI-Joe...it didn't change the outcome of who I am.  Come on people, it is 2013, we all should know by now playing with barbies wont make a boy like other boys just like playing with trucks wont make a girl like other girls.  You can beat "masculine" things into your boys all you want...but if they are going to be gay, they are going to be gay, deal with it and quit creating more flipping stereotypes!  With that said not all homosexual men are "girly" and not all lesbians are "boyish", staaaaahp it right now! 

Back to the subject matter, quit trying to force kids into your ideals.  If your daughter likes pink princesses that is okay, if she likes frogs & snails & puppy dog tails, that is okay too.  If your son likes trucks and superheros that is okay, if he is full of sugar & spice & everything nice that's okay too.  Forcing boys & girls into boxes of what boys/girls should be just enlarges the gender gap.  We are supposed to be moving forward, becoming more accepting not acting like just because one has or does not have a penis/vagina makes a difference in what they are capable of accomplishing. 

Rant over, NOLA Gurl out :P

Lemons, lemons everywhere...

...then suddenly a peach, whoop whoop

Okay maybe peach isn't the best choice since I don't really like peaches but its something better than a lemon and I always hear southerners say "aren't you just a peach" as a compliment so it must be a good fruit!  Well usually its a compliment...sometimes its pure sarcasm but you get the picture. 

So what are the lemons, while they aren't terrible lemons they are utterly frustrating!  They are work and regular life related and they are preventing me from going out of town for a special event.  Its been insane, I clear one thing up and something else pops up.  Like the issue that originally was preventing me from going got postponed.  Then I got subpoenaed to appear in court, crap!  Today I got word that, that was resolved, whoooo hooooo...then I found out about a new complication which requires me to stay in town, waaaaahhhhh. I've accepted that there is just no way to make this work. 

So where did the peach come from, well ya see I feel extraordinarily guilty about not going, so it got my creative juices flowing and I think I came up with something awesome.  Well I think its awesome...I hope I am right in this assumption.  I would have done something meaningful even if I was going but I went a little over the top, whoops.  It's a baby shower for one of my oldest and best-est friends.  Since I plan on being well known to this new bundle of joy I feel like I need to start spoiling her NOW!  I can't say exactly what I am doing, in case she is reading this but I think she'll appreciate it, mom...not baby...hello, baby can't read yet...well baby will probably appreciate it later...like when she is more self aware...oh and born.

I just hope my peach doesn't turn into a prune.  Well I think a prune is bad, some people would love a prune but for the sake of this conversation its bad.  Like I hope I am not totally off with this...but I really don't think I am.  She's having a baby girl...a princess...she should have girly stuff, right?  But not all pink and bows...something else that's more NOLA Gurl-esq.  Ugh, the uncertainty!  I will feel awful if I make her cry...but if its because she is happy that's okay, right?  right?  My note to her has silliness in it (it wouldn't be me if I didn't try to make her laugh) along with a lot of love so I think it will be great.  Why am I second guessing the peach...I should embrace the peach...love the peach...become the peach...alright maybe not that extreme and wow that just sounds dirty...maybe a peach wasn't the best choice.  I gotta go...fingers crossed that she likes it :)

What the hell is an inkling and how do people get them?!?

Okay, okay I may already know what the actual definition of an inkling is but I only ever hear it from people over 60 y.o.a., mainly from my AMAZING grandma.  So by most definitions it means a slight hint or indication.  I mean I guess I get "inklings" about different things but I never use this word so when I hear it applied to me it makes me giggle.  I know I am weird, we have already established that. 

I've heard this term at various stages in my life, either applied to situations involving me or someone I am close to.  For some reason even though I know what it means whenever I hear it I picture a fancy ink pen with a smaller (baby) version of itself (an inkling...ya get it?!).  Stop laughing...okay laugh it up, because it makes me smile too.  Then I start to wonder where I can obtain one of these adorable inklings and I end up smiling like a fool and people stare at me like I need to be medicated. 

Where did this come from, you may ask?  Well the other night I went to hang out with my fam for Halloween.  I helped the g-ma hand out candy and had kids young and old tell me how awesome my costume was.  Yes, I am an adult and I was in a costume, I love Halloween, don't judge!   And I was informing all the older ones around me what all the kiddies were dressed as because they had no clue.  One of my favs was this adorable little girl, maybe 7 or 8 dressed as a witch, with green face and a broom.  My cousin was like are you from Wicked???  I said are you Elphaba???  And she said yes and her sister was dressed as Glinda and I was done.  I was like everybody go home, this adorable little girl wins Halloween!  Wow talk about getting off topic. 

Back to my story about inklings (hehehehe).  I poured a cup of daiquiri but didn't drink much.  I wasn't feeling 100%, as in I think I was starting to get sick (which I am sick now so yuck!).  Then later in the night I drank a lot of Iced Tea.  The next day I was going to pick up lunch and my cousin texted me.  She said "g-ma, thinks you're pregnant...she has an "inkling", hahaha".  I was in McAllister's waiting for food and did the stupid smile thing when I read inkling...I think the waitress thought I was mental.  What makes this even more strange is we are kinda trying.  Like not officially counting and taking temps but we aren't preventing.  So then I was like holy shit g-ma is psychic.  Not that I think I am preggo, I am just not well at the moment...like fever and everything.  But now I am like, what if I am...what if she just sensed something different about me...she had an inkling...how the hell does that work???  What kind of sorcery is this?!?

So now I feel like I need to go on a quest to find a baby fancy pen so that I can have my very own "inkling" and then maybe I'll be able to be psychic too!

I think my fever took my weirdness to a whole new level today...time for me to sign off.